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theclimbergirl
Jan 10, 2008, 8:19 PM
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My DH and I started out with custom made rings before we decided to get married. I can't remember if they were $450 for both, or $450 for each. His was a white gold celtic weave, mine was a yellow gold celtic weave with a lovely dark colored garnet. The way we chose them is a good story... early in our dating we were walking through a street fair in my hometown. I saw this beautiful ring display, and picked up a card, thinking -- someday, I want one of those (unusual, because I'm not a jewelry girl). Two-ish years later, when the boy and I started discussing that we would like to have rings together, he pulled out his wallet and I pulled out mine -- we had both taken the same card that day, from the same goldsmith, without mentioning it to each other. So, that's who we called.
I'm not a diamond girl. We wore those before we got married, and then wore them as wedding rings until about three years ago when we took up climbing and needed something we could take off and on easier. Mine is a lovely little white gold ring with some diamond chips, his is a plain white gold band. Total was about $250 for both. If I had it to do over again, I'd either forego the diamonds or ensure that the diamonds were properly sourced, but I didn't know at the time.
Now? hubby wears his fairly regularly, and when he's not wearing it, it's typically clipped to an accessory biner on my chalk bag. I haven't worn either of mine in some time -- at least, not on my finger. I wear my white gold ring on a chain around my neck. For awhile, I wore my husband's on a chain around my neck, and folks assumed I was a widow.
I still think very fondly of our wedding (and have done so, often, in the last few weeks). We got married ten years ago this September, so yes, I was a baby. I always meant to write an article about our wedding -- we did the whole thing for less than $2000 including service at our house with about 14 guests, reception at a facility afterward with all the friends and family, and then spaghetti feed (I picked up garlic bread on the way home in my wedding dress -- a fond memory) at our house (I cooked) for about 50 of our best friends after the reception. It was a looong day, but it was a grand party, and I don't regret a thing. The only thing we may have done differently is planned our ceremony to include our "chosen" family instead of just our immediate family -- there was a little bit of drama with some of the immediate family members about the choices we made, and if I had it to do over again, we may have been able to avoid that.
My advice to folks planning weddings is to do it your way. Try to resist the temptation to go down "crazy lane," the nickname my husband gave for those periods when I'd get obsessed over some stupid detail that had nothing to do with us ending up married.
In now, years, of not regularly wearing my wedding band, I've had precious few misunderstandings that resulted. I joke that I just "look" married, so the guys stay away.
Doing each other the honor of making your commitment ritual your own, seems to me a good sign for the future of your union.
(This post was edited by theclimbergirl on Jan 10, 2008, 8:21 PM)
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