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climberterp
Aug 24, 2005, 10:59 PM
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In reply to: But your Hubby doesn't mind? I would think that was insulting unless as a climber he could understand. It would be so sad to lose a wedding ring but why not wear it on a necklace while you climb? For some people it just isn't as important as it is for others so I understand but I'm different and wouldn't want to leave mine at home or have my hubby do the same. But, hey, I'm not married and you are so what the heck do I know? :)
Well, no, he doesn't mind. He understands that I can't wear rings while I climb because I could get hurt, and he'd rather I leave them home than have to buy new ones if I lose them. Wearing a ring or not wearing a ring doesn't change our relationship any, if it did I'd be worried! I mean, it's not like my love for my husband is tied to a piece of metal; it's just a decorative symbol that's sometimes convenient to wear and sometimes not. :)
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ontherocks
Aug 25, 2005, 1:17 AM
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Well, I am not married/engaged (not anymore)... But I used to climb with another guy that was married. He usually took his ring off, but once he forgot to put it on again before going home... and his wife got upset. The solution: he keeps the ring on but covers it with tape to avoid scratches.
I also had another partner (a girl) that had a engagement ring with a big rock. She used to clip it to a biner and hang it to her harness.
My only concern climbing is my wrist watch. I used to wear one until I destroyed the crystal. Now I buy the cheapest digital watch I can find and clip it to a biner while I climb trad (in the gym I don't bother much).
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climbing_lotus
Aug 26, 2005, 4:52 PM
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Issue here! Don't wear your ring climbing, PLEASE! If you get it caught and fall, you WILL lose your finger (it has happened, locally). Also, if you break a finger (or sprain it or anything like that) you will have to get it cut off. They (we, I'm a responder) don't give a choice, we'll cut it off. As for the ring on the chain thing, if you do that for too long (I'm talkin' years) you may need to get your band rebuilt. I love the idea of the biner on the bra strap though!
When I first got engaged, I carried my ring box everywhere with me, and when I needed to take my ring off, I just stuck it in there. That way the ring, and my finger are safe! Now I just leave it at home. My hubby doesn't mind. He said he would rather have me ringless that have to spend the money again! We are considering the tatoo idea.... it seems like the best idea....
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chknlittle
Aug 26, 2005, 8:51 PM
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I love the idea of hooking it on your bra strap. The only problem is that I don't know of many girls that wear bras climbing anymore. I've seen plenty of people wearing earings and necklaces climbing so I think people should jsut put it on a necklace or a string. I understand that wearing a ring or not doesn't change how you feel about your hubby/wife, but I wouldn't like it if my hubby (if I had one) went to a bar and took his ring off. I understand the safety issue definately. Not all spouses mind but I think a lot do. I know a lot of people that would never take their rings off no matter what.
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jedi75
Aug 29, 2005, 12:03 AM
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what does going to the bar and taking your ring off have to do with climbing? one is a safety issue and one is a, well, for a need of a better word, social trust issue. what ever you do and where ever you put it is up to the wearer, the important thing is to take it off when climbing.
and so if any of you ladies are concerned about your man taking the ring off at the bar I suggest branding him so that every-one knows you own him. then again if you cant trust your man/ woman then why are you still with them?
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chknlittle
Aug 29, 2005, 1:37 AM
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Thanks for the Jed. We needed a male opinion in the LADIES ROOM aka female section of the forum. Anyway, I said myself that people are different. I agree that it is up to the wearer. Given that all people are different we are all entitled to our own opinions. I was giving my own opinion on to how I feel about the issue as it would apply to my life. I was in no way saying that anyone else is wrong in any way, just that I would feel differently. I know you have a personal issue with me Jed but maybe you could take this up elsewhere, not in an online forum meant for women. Please feel free to talk to me in person, you know where we live, I prefer that. So, Acadia next weekend?
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lhwang
Aug 29, 2005, 2:41 AM
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Hey, I have no problem with guys posting in here even though this is supposed to be for women-specific issues. I don't know if there's something personal going on between Jed and some of the other users, but I would hate to scare away any guys from the forum who might be genuinely interested in understanding some of our issues....
Anyway, back to the subject at hand... personally, I think a ring is a waste of money. I'd be much happier if my boyfriend bought me a new pair of Aztars! I can think of a lot of reasons why I wouldn't want to wear any ring on a climb... it's a safety issue because it can get stuck, the ring could get damaged or lost, and (tongue in cheek here) it's another exit point if you get struck by lightning. Even on a chain, I'd worry about snagging the chain on something.
I would really hope that a person's significant other would understand why they might not want to wear their ring for whatever reason. In my case, apart from the fact that I climb every other day, I can't sterilize my hands properly wearing a ring or wear a ring under gloves in the OR so if I were to get a ring, it would sit at home in a drawer.
Is it really true that most girls don't wear bras while climbing???
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climberterp
Aug 29, 2005, 2:42 AM
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Erin, speaking of talking to someone in person, you knew full well who you were responding to with your first post to this forum, so why try to be coy about it?
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In reply to: But your Hubby doesn't mind? I would think that was insulting unless as a climber he could understand.
seem to be implying that you think I’m doing something wrong, even though you claim not to be saying that. So who has the personal issue with whom? Why didn’t you take your own advice and speak to me in person?
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chknlittle
Aug 29, 2005, 10:39 AM
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Maura, I wasn't implying that you did something wrong. I don't have a personal issue with you. Have you given me a reason that I don't know about? Maybe you have an issue with me if you were so eager to assume that I was trying to be rude to you. If I did insult you in some way, I am sorry. You can take it however you would like, but I have NEVER said anything intentionally rude to you in this forum or in person.
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chknlittle
Aug 29, 2005, 10:52 AM
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In response to lhwang, I'm really not trying to "scare away" guys from the forum. I guess I was just insulted that Jed would come here to personally attack me. I don't expect that the guys (or even all girls) would fully agree with our issues but this is a place that is supposed to be safe for us to express how we feel about climbing related issues, it is an inappropriate place to attack someone.
I would love a male opinion on things especially if it is different from my own. I am sorry if it looked differently when I wrote what I did, but I see how you could take it that way. I guess it was just a specific person's opinion I didn't want. Sorry guys! :oops:
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chknlittle
Aug 29, 2005, 11:10 AM
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I read Jed's comment over again from the point of view of the other's here that don't know him and don't understand that it is a personal attack. This it how I feel...
We weren't talking about men leaving their rings at home. We were talking about women leaving their rings at home. I am the only one who mentioned a man leaving his ring home but only to look at the situation from the other side of it. The issue here isn't trusting your husband at a bar. The main issue was what women do with their rings when they are climbing. It's not a trust issue it is a safety issue that for some women also causes a dilema. Do you wear it on you some where so it is close to you? For some people it is an important thing, while for it is not. Everyone's relationship is different and everyone feels differently about their rings. We weren't discussing this to hear our own opinions repeated by others, we wanted to find out what other people do. Whether out of curiosity or trying to find suggestions, we wanted to see what others thought. I was simply expressing how I would feel...it wasn't a window into my relationship. I don't have a trust issue with my boyfriend, I just love him more than anything else in this world and know I would want my ring close to me.
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crackrn
Aug 30, 2005, 2:26 AM
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Had no idea this thread was still going! At this point, we've decided on the ring on a chain solution. We were going to leave it at home but neither one of us liked that idea too much. We'll see. Once the shiny newness of being engaged/married wears off I/we may not care as much. Or the first time my necklace gets caught on something. Whichever comes first! :lol:
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