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androids
Jul 8, 2006, 1:49 AM
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[quote="tgreene"]The sad thing is, I don't believe that most of you have taken time to clearly read the OP.
Don't ask another person to do, what you're not willing to do yourself... To fully understand the meaning of this word COMPROMISE, I'll put it into the realms of sexual fantasy -- Pretty much every guy fantasizes about his wife or gf bringing home her best hottie friend, and going at it while we watch or take pictures, but are YOU first ready to bring your buddy home and do the same to him, while she kicks back w/ a camera..? :o
actually to make matters more difficult she has just brought up her "interest in women"....arrrrghhh!
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sidepull
Jul 8, 2006, 2:07 AM
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In reply to: In reply to: I have a friend who moved to Utah to go back to college. His wife owns his soul. She never lets him go climbing. Show your gf that you're in charge. As soon as she starts to see that she has control, you're screwed, kiss your rack and every opertunity for a road trip goodbye. Make sure you have sex one more time before you leave and make sure you're on top, only to further show you're in control, its just better that way. Unless you want to be you're wife's b---- untill you're 100, then go right ahead. Don't forget to pick her up and bodyslam her, chew her ear and growl loudly. Oh, and make sure she sees that you ALWAYS eat first. That always keeps the alpha established. Look, I've seen a lot of "OMG! relationship or climming??!!11" threads on this site. And I maintain that if you have to ask this on the internet, then you're not very good at at least one of the two.
Wow! Other than the comment that the OP is obviously a puss the only other things right with this thread are climbsomething's two conclusions:
1) anger is a great motivation within a relationship - 15,000 battered women can't be wrong (please see my thoughts on this topic on the other whiney thread currently in vogue here - "Help me - I've lost my motivation to boulder and shadows scare me and I also never stopped wetting . . .").
2) If you have to ask then either a) this is just bs and you've done a good job turning a non-issue into a 7 page virtual one b) you're too immature to be in said relationship by virtue of the fact that you're asking us for advice or c) both a and b your immature and the relationship isn't real. In that case (c) then go climbing - your imaginary girl friend will be there with you so that you can beat her and get motivated (unless beating is a coy way of self-pleasuring in which case you're ruining you hand strength for the climb).
Good luck in your decision!
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thespider
Jul 8, 2006, 2:33 AM
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Girlfriend=Climb
Wife=Don't Climb
It all depends on what her expectations of you are. If she says she wants you to go, she could be lying. But if she is a good girl, she won't lie. And if you are with her, you expect her to be a good girl. So if we can assume she would not lie, ask her, she know the best out of anyone. Either way, I would hope you would visit her in school. Good Luck!!
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androids
Jul 8, 2006, 2:34 AM
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In reply to: You are so full of s---. T5. Well done.
wtf?? you dont know me you dont know my girl , i guess youre assumptions are based on youre hard-core 5.5 leads on yam.
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squamishdirtbag
Jul 8, 2006, 3:17 AM
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wanker or cranker??
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climbsomething
Jul 8, 2006, 3:32 AM
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In reply to: 15,000 battered women can't be wrong
(I'll be here all week. Tip your waitresses people!)
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shanz
Jul 8, 2006, 3:36 AM
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Dude
I just kicked my guy off his PC so I could reply....That alone says something for his love for me...If you really love this girl and SHE "Really" loves you then you will feel free to climb and you two will endure.. climbing is a free spirited thing..It Is Not a Hobby But A Way Of Life.. and either you two share that or NOT... Only Time Will Tell...My Guy got me into climbing and we love it ....never leave a GREAT climbing partner ...but there is always something to be said about those who don't share the same passion..as it is said to me by friends who don't have a partner to climb with it is most difficult to find the "right one" to climb with...so Hun all I can say is follow your heart..climb on But be true to your heart..how ever it may lead you.
Climb on.your friend in understanding for the passion of climbing
ANGEL
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shanz
Jul 8, 2006, 4:23 AM
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Well thanksyou for a night of cotraversy - my better half stole the keys to make a post-- first of all if you are under 25 she may be a blip on the radar on the other hand my daughter who is 22 and has a good man she has been together with for 4 years says and i shall quote "if you are questioning this then you need a support group or need to grow up - if there is doubt in your mind then you have some serious issues" In otherwords if she is setting boundries on your relationship then you better find a better woman... Trust me i have had various relationships and it funny how the broken road led me straight to a climber and what i loved to do
As i have come up with in my infinite wisdom -- if you climb and she bails it was never meant to be -- if you send and she stays you will be together forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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shanz
Jul 8, 2006, 4:36 AM
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first let me say this ur all of 18 yrs old with the rest of ur life ahead of u. u r in a relationship with a GIRL and ur still a BOY not a man and woman. If climbing is something that will keep being a sourse of conflict and u cant learn to comprmise then u better think about where ur relationship is realy going. if u go on this expidition and u lose her will u look back in a few years and regret it badly and say she was the one that got away, of will she be another bump in the road. if climbing is going to be a life long passion then u should consider finding a WOMAN that can understand or share it. point blank grow up and figure this out on ur own there will never be anyone that can run ur life but u. this is a web site not ur personal relationship counsler the people here r climbers not ur MOTHER. btw this is shanzes daughter. and yes i am an ass.
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epsilon
Jul 8, 2006, 5:03 AM
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You might want to read "No Time To Cry" from Mark Twight's book "Kiss Or Kill". Because even though this isn't exactly the same as what's described in that article, if you break up with any girlfriend to go climbing, that's the direction you might be headed. Would you break up with someone you love to further your career as a climber? I know a lot of people hate Twight but he makes a good point here, one that affected me strongly.
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rockguide
Jul 8, 2006, 7:13 AM
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Six week expedition(?) to the Bugaboos?
The Bugaboos near Radium? The Bugaboos that are a couple hours run down to the car and a three or so hour drive back to the place where you (and presumably your girlfriend) live? The Bugaboos where you could turn a few rest or weather days into relationship/nookie days? Those Bugaboos?
Unless you are planning on hauling 6 weeks of supplies (thus no resupply trip to Radium) to the far side of the Howsers and dwelling exclusively in portaledges, you should be able to take a run out or she should be able to visit.
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ocean
Jul 8, 2006, 1:53 PM
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Screw the girl climbing will never leave you.
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wonderwoman
Jul 8, 2006, 3:05 PM
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In reply to: I would go climbing! just remeber to wear a helmet when you ask her for your nuts back :lol:
This is an awesome post! trophy for you!
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curtis_g
Jul 8, 2006, 4:58 PM
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In reply to: Look, I've seen a lot of "OMG! relationship or climming??!!11" threads on this site. And I maintain that if you have to ask this on the internet, then you're not very good at at least one of the two.
awesome
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jt512
Jul 8, 2006, 5:12 PM
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In reply to: Look, I've seen a lot of "OMG! relationship or climming??!!11" threads on this site. And I maintain that if you have to ask this on the internet, then you're not very good at at least one of the two.
It's too bad that we don't have some way to archive classic posts because this is arguably the best flame ever posted.
Jay
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curtis_g
Jul 8, 2006, 8:22 PM
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In reply to: In reply to: Look, I've seen a lot of "OMG! relationship or climming??!!11" threads on this site. And I maintain that if you have to ask this on the internet, then you're not very good at at least one of the two. It's too bad that we don't have some way to archive classic posts because this is arguably the best flame ever posted. Jay
It takes my vote.
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secretagent
Jul 8, 2006, 8:29 PM
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In reply to: In reply to: In reply to: Look, I've seen a lot of "OMG! relationship or climming??!!11" threads on this site. And I maintain that if you have to ask this on the internet, then you're not very good at at least one of the two. It's too bad that we don't have some way to archive classic posts because this is arguably the best flame ever posted. Jay It takes my vote.
Mine too, I think there is a vary valid point
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mr8615
Jul 8, 2006, 10:52 PM
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I could see this thread going down in history as one of the greatest trolls ever, but true or not, there is some awesome advice on here. The best way to form your own opinions about these things is to listen intently to what others would do and why and then deciding what makes the most sense to you.
PS. climbsomething's flame is so awesome! Profound and true, I love it.
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codhands
Jul 9, 2006, 12:45 AM
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The mountains will always be there... wil she?
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collegekid
Jul 9, 2006, 1:25 AM
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Both.
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androids
Jul 9, 2006, 2:34 AM
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[quote="ocean"]Screw the girl climbing will never leave you.
i once said the same thing ... then i fell soloing ice , landed all the way in the hospital for 2 weeks ... climbing left me for dead.
im taking the trip, if shes not there when i get back im going climbing more.
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sick_climba
Jul 9, 2006, 4:15 AM
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[quote="androids"]In reply to: Screw the girl climbing will never leave you. i once said the same thing ... then i fell soloing ice , landed all the way in the hospital for 2 weeks ... climbing left me for dead. im taking the trip, if shes not there when i get back im going climbing more. |
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rock_rookie
Jul 9, 2006, 4:35 AM
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androids, you lucky dog!!! You have the opportunity to spend SIX WEEKS in the Bugaboos? DO NOT PASS IT UP!
However, unless you are renting several porters and/or a chopper to haul in 42 days worth of food... you will have to make a trip or two out for supplies. Why don't you arrange to rendevouz with your sweetie in Radium, for a couple of days every few weeks, during your trip? Or perhaps you could convince her to come in for a portion of the time? Tell her to bring some good novels and her camera. Applebee campground is a nice place to lay around and read and snap photos. As well, the Kain Hut is usually brimming with interesting people - it is fun to meet them and join in if they are sitting around playing games or visiting. Alternatively, you could offer to take her somewhere or do something extra special with her during the two weeks you'll have prior to her leaving for school.
Anyhow, I say: do offer her some sort of compromise, and if she's not willing to work something out, then that is her choice to not see you for six weeks. Clearly, climbing is important to you, so someone who truly loves and understands you will still love you when you get back. Same as you will still love her after she returns from 3 months at school.
Cheers.
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wonderwoman
Jul 9, 2006, 4:41 PM
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In reply to: im taking the trip, if shes not there when i get back im going climbing more.
Well, good for you for taking the trip... But I hope you use more tact when relaying your decision to your girlfriend. Otherwise, I guarantee you'll have plenty more time to climb in your single life.
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