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Oct 27, 2006, 1:21 AM
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So say you have this hot student and since you are a TA for a Uni. she is over 21. She keeps stopping by and leaving me notes and candy and I told her if she was trying to bribe me beer would do better. She stopped by and brought root beer cause she was at school all day and could not purchase any beer. She is either trying to bribe me or hit on me. I am pretty conceited so we will go with #2.
What do I do? I can't really ask her out, is that not sexual harrassment? I know they made me take a class or something about this. Damn succubi. The class I teach technically stops meeting next tuesday but is not over till Dec. It sucks being a TA and just moving across the country because a lot of the new people you meet are your students haha.
I once had a TA ask me out before, sooo it can't be that bad, correct?
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clausti
Oct 27, 2006, 1:28 AM
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men are pigs.
translation: you cant go out with her till after final grades are turned in.
then, ask her out.
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mowz
Oct 27, 2006, 1:34 AM
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Don't do it. It will lead to problems. It is not an issue of sexual harassment, if what you posted is the complete truth, but it can become a problem of sexual harassment. I'll provide and example later. This is an issue of business ethics. You, sir, are an employee of the university and universities are businesses. It is against most university policies for a person who holds a position of power (i.e. R.A., tutor, T.A., professor, advisor, dean, counselor, etc.) to have a romantic relationship with a student because of ethics. Also, it is not considered good business practice.
How can it turn bad?
Say you two get involved. She brings you your beer and what not. Say she receives a grade less than what she believes she deserves. You then are between a rock and a hard place. She can turn around and say that the two of you were romantically involved, but you two then had a bad breakup; you then gave her a low grade because you were mad at her. Or she can claim that you promised her a higher grade and pose questions to the dean or her advisor. She can also claim that you were sexually harassing her by promising her good grades or points on tests if you two went out.
You get the picture. Jo, we've climbed together in the past and I think you're a good person. Don't travel down this road. Trust me, everyone's got issues; who knows what her's are?
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caughtinside
Oct 27, 2006, 1:43 AM
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Live the Dream, dude. 8^)
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blonde_loves_bolts
Oct 27, 2006, 1:47 AM
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Jesus Christ, Mowz... by the next time you change your sig, they'll all be topless! And that's a good thing...
8^)
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clausti
Oct 27, 2006, 1:49 AM
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In reply to: Jesus Christ, Mowz... by the next time you change your sig, they'll all be topless! And that's a good thing... 8^)
speaking of which, has anyone noticed that the girl on the left could not possibly be pulling her own shirt down? the hand is at the wrong angle. it is someone else's hand!!!
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organic
Oct 27, 2006, 1:53 AM
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Those pictures are so not work safe!
clausti: If men are pigs? what would you call the female TA who asked me out?
PS. What is wrong with simple enjoying a nice dinner with someone? It is not like I was thinking about sex or anything...
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camhead
Oct 27, 2006, 2:09 AM
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dude, just wait until grades are in. the added bonus is that if she goes out with you after grades are in, you'll know she wasn't just using you for an "A."
Sucks, though. I had some total hotties in this US History course I was teaching this summer.
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clausti
Oct 27, 2006, 2:29 AM
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In reply to: Those pictures are so not work safe! clausti: If men are pigs? what would you call the female TA who asked me out? PS. What is wrong with simple enjoying a nice dinner with someone? It is not like I was thinking about sex or anything...
you didnt read my translation, obviously. :roll: i told you to ask her out after final grades are in.
PS. nothing. but mowz is right on the whole harassment thing. and if SHE doesnt make trouble for you, but she makes an honest A and someone else thinks shes to ditzy to have made that grade, and they know yall are going out, it will DEFINITELY make trouble for you.
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Oct 27, 2006, 2:43 AM
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In reply to: speaking of which, has anyone noticed that the girl on the left could not possibly be pulling her own shirt down? the hand is at the wrong angle. it is someone else's hand!!!
So what's your point? :lol:
I guess I never noticed it. I must have been looking elsewhere. :oops:
Like the center pic. :lol:
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Oct 27, 2006, 2:44 AM
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In reply to: men are pigs.
Yep... Every single one of us...
Trick is to find the 3% who are cute and cuddly with a curly tail, not the 97% of us who are just swine, or wish they were.
Thing is, the swine tend to fuck much better, as with experience come proficiencey...
This is why good girls like bad boys, as the bad boys realize that they all fuck, and its just a question of whether or not they're gonna fuck them. :wink:
Now as for "...if men are pigs, what are women?" They're whacked. :shock:
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Oct 27, 2006, 2:46 AM
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In reply to: In reply to: men are pigs. Yep... Every single one of us... Trick is to find the 3% who are cute and cuddly with a curly tail, not the 97% of us who are just swine. Thing is, the swine tend to f--- much better, as with experience come proficiencey... This is why good girls like bad boys, as the bad boys realize that they all f---, and its just a question of whether or not they're gonna f--- them. :wink: Now as for "...if men are pigs, what are women?" They're whacked. :shock:
si.
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carabiner96
Oct 27, 2006, 2:49 AM
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My boyfriend was my TA when we started dating. Spent the whole semester hiding it from the professor...then it turned out he knew all along!
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caughtinside
Oct 27, 2006, 3:04 AM
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dude. this girl is cute, and she's totally into you. She brings you stuff, writes you silly little love notes, and even tries to get you beer. BEER!
Know what I'm saying? Now let's go over what isn't in your post, but should have been. She probably watches you when you're not aware, just to be closer to you. She's telling all her friends what a hot TA she's got. You're already a legend. There is a pack of 21 year old coeds who desire you. you are keeping her awake at night, while she is concocting more schemes to get your attention. She's hot for you, and she's not afraid to let you know it. You got rootbeer right after an offhand comment. Who knows what she would do, if only you asked?
Who knows? 8^)
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:10 AM
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If she offers to take to to dinner at a strip club, then your golden.
Worked for me.
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:35 AM
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In reply to: men are pigs translation: you cant go out with her till after final grades are turned in. then, ask her out.
i'll disagree with the "men are pigs" but agree with everything else.
A friend of mine is in the same boat. I say if you still have anything to do with marking her paper it's not right if you date her.
On the other hand there is so much fucking inconsistency with TA's and marking that it's disgusting. But, still, it wouldn't be right.
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:35 AM
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In reply to: dude. this girl is cute, and she's totally into you. She brings you stuff, writes you silly little love notes, and even tries to get you beer. BEER! Know what I'm saying? Now let's go over what isn't in your post, but should have been. She probably watches you when you're not aware, just to be closer to you. She's telling all her friends what a hot TA she's got. You're already a legend. There is a pack of 21 year old coeds who desire you. you are keeping her awake at night, while she is concocting more schemes to get your attention. She's hot for you, and she's not afraid to let you know it. You got rootbeer right after an offhand comment. Who knows what she would do, if only you asked? Who knows? 8^)
BOOYAH TOUCHDOWN I MAKE MIRACLES HAPPEN!
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:42 AM
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In reply to: On the other hand there is so much f---ing inconsistency with TA's and marking that it's disgusting. But, still, it wouldn't be right. |
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Oct 27, 2006, 6:50 AM
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I appreciate the fact that your even asking, but damn! I just hope that you can wait until the semester is out.
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bizarrodrinker
Oct 27, 2006, 1:10 PM
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In reply to: men are pigs. translation: you cant go out with her till after final grades are turned in. then, ask her out.
While I probably don't share Clausti's zeal, she is right on all counts. Though I think "dog" is more appropriate, because they are more easily trained as is the case with ~85% of men.
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Oct 27, 2006, 2:47 PM
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Buncha weaksauce answers. Dude, you're in a position of power. Abuse it! You should be tradin grades for sex like nobodys buisness man.
Think about it this way... when you're 80, are you going to remember that one time you stuck by your ethics and followed the rules of your school to the letter, or are you going to remember that time that you were a TA and banged all those hot coeds?
Damn!
Steve
P.S. This may just be Mowz's signature getting to me. Can't.... think.... boobies.....
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:02 PM
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One of my fellow grad students is from Spain, and he cannot figure out what the big deal is with teachers sleeping with current students. Apparently the attitude in Spain is that they are both consenting adults, so why not? And I guess it is pretty frequent as well.
I guess some girls just LOVE the authority that an absent-minded professor exudes. I haven'f found any, though.
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Oct 27, 2006, 3:12 PM
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In reply to: One of my fellow grad students is from Spain, and he cannot figure out what the big deal is with teachers sleeping with current students. Apparently the attitude in Spain is that they are both consenting adults, so why not? And I guess it is pretty frequent as well. I guess some girls just LOVE the authority that an absent-minded professor exudes. I haven'f found any, though.
are you an absent minded professor?
it seems so odd for a student prof relationship. Sure they are both consenting adults but does the marking not become subjective.
"oh, i had great sex with whatsherface last night, i gotta give her an A even though this is B material."
Maybe they deserve it? How much do employers look at marks and how much do they look at what you've done and where you've worked previously? Maybe if you're willing to sleep with a prof you're better for a company?
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camhead
Oct 27, 2006, 3:37 PM
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naw, I'm not a professor yet. Right now these damn desert splitters and towers keep distracting me from finishing the dissertation.
Definitely absent-minded, though.
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Oct 27, 2006, 6:23 PM
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Just do her and worry about the consequences later.
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Oct 27, 2006, 8:26 PM
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WWHD?
*what would hangerlessbolt do?
:D :D :D :D :D :D
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Oct 27, 2006, 8:37 PM
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In reply to: WWHD? *what would hangerlessbolt do? :D :D :D :D :D :D
You're naughty.
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Post Photos. Otherwise we can't help.
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Oct 27, 2006, 8:54 PM
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In reply to: WWHD? *what would hangerlessbolt do? :D :D :D :D :D :D
Let's rephrase that question:
What wouldn't he do?
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Oct 27, 2006, 8:57 PM
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In reply to: In reply to: WWHD? *what would hangerlessbolt do? :D :D :D :D :D :D Let's rephrase that question: What wouldn't he do?
That's actually NOT a question. So the question is which of his many options would he choose.
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Oct 27, 2006, 9:22 PM
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In reply to: That's actually NOT a question. So the question is which of his many options would he choose.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Right-o! He'd do everything possible and then think up new sick and demeaning things to do.
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Oct 27, 2006, 9:57 PM
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In reply to: "oh, i had great sex with whatsherface last night, i gotta give her an A even though this is B material."
You better hope Val doesn't see this. :shock:
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In reply to: On the other hand there is so much f---ing inconsistency with TA's and marking that it's disgusting. But, still, it wouldn't be right.
I went to school in a world where the answer was either right, or wrong (go math!....I'm a geek :( ). Though it was all about the partial marks when you got to test time.
Now, back to the TA dilemma. Depending on your interaction with the class it may pass unnoticed...or you could just wait till the end of the semester where it wouldn't be a dilemma anymore.
PS - I'm dissapointed in this thread. Other for the girls in Mowz's sig (who may or may not be students) there are no hotties in this thread to be seen.
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Oct 28, 2006, 12:32 AM
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In reply to: ...Now as for "...if men are pigs, what are women?" They're whacked. :shock:
Basically paraphrasing one of the world's universal truths:
All men are jerks and all women are psycho. :wink:
Curt
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Oct 28, 2006, 12:37 AM
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In reply to: ...it seems so odd for a student prof relationship. Sure they are both consenting adults but does the marking not become subjective. "oh, i had great sex with whatsherface last night, i gotta give her an A even though this is B material."
That's just taking into account the extra credit. :lol:
Curt
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In reply to: naw, I'm not a professor yet. Right now these damn desert splitters and towers keep distracting me from finishing the dissertation. Definitely absent-minded, though.
:lol:
i see what you mean! good luck finishing 'er up.
thanks for the reply.
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Oct 30, 2006, 3:36 AM
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In reply to: In reply to: On the other hand there is so much f---ing inconsistency with TA's and marking that it's disgusting. But, still, it wouldn't be right. I went to school in a world where the answer was either right, or wrong (go math!....I'm a geek :( ). Though it was all about the partial marks when you got to test time.
I basically did too for the last couple years. But regardless of the right and wrong part marks could make for a pass of fail on certan classes.
and yes, you are a geek.
:lol:
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I can't believe I leave for a few weeks and Mowz puts up and brings down another set of hot girls I didn't get to see...
Just my luck..
-F
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In reply to: I can't believe I leave for a few weeks and Mowz puts up and brings down another set of hot girls I didn't get to see... Just my luck.. -F
check out his thread, dude. they're there.
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