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pumpkin_man
Jul 3, 2002, 12:41 PM
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Hi everyone!
how are you keeping?
here is the questions:
how do you persuade your gf/bf to go climbing with you?
how do you convince her/him that the climbing is a good activity?
and when she/he say: i am scare!
what do you do about it?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! AMERICA
Edited to make title reflect subject matter.
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orestes1724
Jul 3, 2002, 12:51 PM
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i just kept asking him to come with me, then he did. now he always says we have to go again. he never said he was scared so that wasent a problem.
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jammer
Jul 3, 2002, 1:16 PM
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My wife is truly afraid of heights. She will never go climbing with me. To this end, there is nothing you can do about it. Otherwise, If you get them to sit in front of a TV long enough, slip in your favorite climbing video and show him/her what you are spending your time doing. You could also ask them to help you pratice, informing them that they never have to leave the ground, until they see how much fun you are having and want to join in. NEVER push anyone to do something they don't want to do, that is if you want to keep them around. You could also emphize the fact that you would be spending more time togeather if they join you, but be warned ... you might be asked to return the favor
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doosh
Jul 3, 2002, 1:26 PM
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Date climbers?
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overlord
Jul 3, 2002, 1:37 PM
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my current one was really glad when i asked her to go climbing with me and my partner. offcourse she said that she would only watch, but at the end she said that "this looks interesting". she always said that she would not climb for the world, but now when she saw it, her defences collapsed. i have already talked her into climbing the next time we go to a crag yust keep asking and youll succeed. when i climbed for the first time i too only went to watch, now 1.5 years after, im completely hooked...
CLIMB ON
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pumpkin_man
Jul 3, 2002, 1:55 PM
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thank you for your advice and suggestion
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atg200
Jul 3, 2002, 2:43 PM
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don't push it too hard. my girlfriend loves to climb in the gym, but she is terrified to climb outside. pushing it on her scared her and made her feel bad about herself, and made both of us miserable while we were climbing.
now, we can go have fun at the gym together, but there is no pressure for me to take her on weekends. that means i have plenty of time to hang out with my climber friends(which is really pretty much all of my friends), and she has plenty of time to hang out with her friends, go shopping, or whatever else i wouldn't want to do.
or, as doosh said, date a climber. climbing isn't for everybody, and forcing someone to do it is a bad idea.
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climbsomething
Jul 3, 2002, 4:24 PM
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YESSSSS to just dating climbers They already "get it," don't need to be taught how to belay, have their own gear, and don't have the "I'm scared" excuse. plus, they're hot as we all know!
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jansuw
Jul 3, 2002, 4:28 PM
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Hehe, if you're a girl, talk about how great all the climber guys backs and arms are. Don't stop! Eventually he'll start to climb with you just to make sure you're not cheating on him with your 'climbing' partner j/k
But yeah, don't force people into it. Thats mean... Guys on the other hand, telling her stories about climbing shirtless, should do the trick
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verticallaw
Jul 3, 2002, 5:29 PM
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I had a g/f that talk alot about coming out but never actually did. I think she was scared about it but would not admit it.....So... I went climbing and left her in town........then she got bitchy about all the girls that climb and how I'm alone in the woods with atractive, fit, fun, and fearless women and that she felt that I would cheat on her..............So...... as any good climber would do in a dicey situation I assesed my options:
1)I bring her with me and have her glare at the wonderfull female climbers
NAAAAAAAH!
2)I leave her in town and continue to listen to her bitch......
NAAAAAAAH!
3)I leave her and date a climbing studdette.
HMMMMMMMMM this one has merit.
well after seeing my options I decided that while assesing the risk..... 1) wasn't a good idea as I would loose climbing partners and therefore loose climbing time so that one was scratched out
2) was also scratched out as I realized that we had only been dating for about 2 months and if she bitched this much after such a short time imagin what a couple of years would look like.
So all in all i decided on option 3 the least risky of the bunch..............Any takers
Mike
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jt512
Jul 3, 2002, 5:39 PM
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Quote:
here is the questions:
Where the question should be is in the subject header so people actually know what the subject is. Get it? Subject in the subject header. It's not that hard.
-Jay
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its_me_drew
Jul 3, 2002, 5:46 PM
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Well the first thing you do is, post to the RC.com forums. Because unless you do that there is definatly no way that it can be done.
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pumpkin_man
Jul 3, 2002, 5:58 PM
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Hey JAY!
Thank you for your "lession(GET IT?)"
WOW! that was really "warm" welcome from you!
Cheers mate!
Pumpkin
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duracellbunny
Jul 3, 2002, 6:03 PM
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Actually, my husband is climbing since 1996 and since we are here in Austin he was climbing every Saturday and Sunday.
I was staying at home for long periods and I got tired of that , so I went with him once and I tried. Since that day I never stopped. Now I am so happy that I tried that I am ready to go climbing every time that I have the opportunity.
Climbing it's my passion and now we climb together.
He wasn't forcing me to go climbing.
Climb safe and hard
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pumpkin_man
Jul 3, 2002, 6:14 PM
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WOW! Valeria, i ENVY you!
apparently you are living with a good life!
keep up the good work!
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sportgirl
Jul 3, 2002, 6:57 PM
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I say definitely date a climberchic. It is a hell of a lot more fun to climb and then talking about climbing afterward over some beers with your significant other than to date someone who doesn't care or have a clue about it! I have seen so many couples arguing at the crags when a guy wants his girlfriend to climb and she tries, but wants to be lowered because she hated it or was too scared. (No offense guys and I know this is the exeption, - but I once saw some (jerk) guy refuse to lower his girlfriend when she asked because she was fed up and he wanted her to finish the climb because it is what he would do - It became such a scene.)_
It just isn't her thing. Why would you want to date someone who is just climbing to please you and not doing it for her self? I am committed to climbing and excited about it and so is my boyfriend and it makes for a mutually exiciting relationship on and off the rock hee hee. My boyfriend broke up with his ex because she didn't climb and he was going on weekend climbing trips and she didn't go - so they ended up resenting eachother and not supporting eachother. Ahh, it just makes life a lot easier when your partner can also be your climbing partner! Climbing is too dangerous to try to force someone to do it or like it if it just isn't in them.
Good luck!
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doki
Jul 3, 2002, 7:39 PM
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No GF if i get one should be a climber! HAPPY BIRTHDAY USA!
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katywhitman
Jul 3, 2002, 9:20 PM
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Offer to buy him a beer or dinner later. The lure of food can work wonders.
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sportgirl
Jul 3, 2002, 9:51 PM
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Hooraay for you Verticallaw! Why stay with someone who makes you feel badly about being physcially fit, overcoming challenges, having awesome friends, being in the outdoors, building your confidence etc... which is all climbing is about! There are plenty of female climbers out there wanting to meet climbermen - aren't there???
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doosh
Jul 3, 2002, 9:59 PM
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Actually, no.
Plus, most female climbers are flakes.
Men have it rough when they try to date onyl climbers... I am one of the lucky ones.
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punk
Jul 3, 2002, 10:03 PM
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Well here is an Idea,
invite them to go with you to Yosemite then slip something to your friend drink an drug him/her for at least 10 hours
Now put them in grad VII haul bag (use DR P the better way) and haul them up the Tangerine Dreams in about pitch 8 set the ledge and let them wake up ...then Say "Good Morning Hon lesson 101 in climbing is:"....I think whether they like it or not they will have to share the EXPERIENCE ….
Seriously,
it’s a progression thing first hike then backpack then scramble etc.
Bare in mined some people just don’t like it, with the same intensity as you.
its all come down to the matter of taste
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doosh
Jul 3, 2002, 10:08 PM
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"Sorry babe, I forgot your harness..."
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sportgirl
Jul 3, 2002, 10:09 PM
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Punk that is pretty sadistic and just weird actually. I have quite a few female climbing friends and they are anything but flakey - In fact, most of my female friends say the same about men who climb ... I totally disagree with both. The people I've met and climb with are fun ,responsible and great climbers - just quality people. Maybe its an age thing too tho'?
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micahmcguire
Jul 3, 2002, 10:09 PM
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just like in cliffhanger: tell her (or him) that climbing is better than sex
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punk
Jul 3, 2002, 10:13 PM
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Cliffhanger …now that is a novelty
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