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saraleepie17
May 21, 2006, 6:13 PM
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Advice?
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iamthewallress
May 21, 2006, 8:11 PM
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Beware of new partners who overstate their experience...male or female.
Bring a gri-gri and get ready to TR on rigs that you set up yourself in case they're just too sketchy for anything else.
Climbing where others are present is a good way to protect yourself against Stranger Danger.
Don't waste your time giving someone the benefit of a doubt if he seems like he might be iffy (i.e. the 45 year old whose going through a divorce who's only looking for a climbing partner, really.)
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comet
May 21, 2006, 11:41 PM
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All good advice. Also:
Trust your instincts. If something seems "off" (either interpersonally or climbing-wise), it's not worth it. There are plenty of potential partners.
Consider climbing in the gym first. You have a relatively safe environment to check out their belay, there are tons of other people around in case there's a high sketch factor, you get a sense of their climbing ability, and you can see if they're someone you'd want to spend a whole day with.
If it's someone off of RC.com, there's a nifty "partners" button you can use to see who they've climbed with before. You can PM people on this list to see how it went.
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macherry
May 22, 2006, 4:08 PM
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take your own vehicle, you can always make a quick get away if you're picking up bad vibes.
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Make sure someone responsible knows where you are going, with whom you are going, and when you expect to return.
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wjca
May 23, 2006, 10:19 PM
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Meet him at a gym somewhere a couple of times first. You don't want to get out with anyone and find out they don't know shite about climbing.
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redlegrangerone
May 23, 2006, 10:29 PM
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I know it is a lot different being a guy, but I have learned to always make the first climb something I know I am very comfortable on. I have already found out that some guys online lie about their climbing abilities. It is always good to see with your own eyes. Also, the above safety things are all good also. As an aside, I have a very good occasional female partner that I met online. Did not even know she was female until I picked her up. :lol: And then, I was the uncomfortable one. :shock:
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granite_grrl
May 24, 2006, 5:28 AM
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If you cannot get to the gym try to meet them at a cliff where there will be other people around that you know who'll be able to watch out for you. Also consider heading out bouldering and exchanging climbing resumes.
Note on the partner's section in everyone's profile. Someone may have a bunch of partners, don't assume that all these partners have something positive to say about everyone on their list. I know that I have at least one person who'd I warn people about.
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redlegrangerone
May 24, 2006, 3:33 PM
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^^^^^^^^^^^ Would that be Brent_e or the Chossmonkey? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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granite_grrl
May 24, 2006, 3:59 PM
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In reply to: ^^^^^^^^^^^ Would that be Brent_e or the Chossmonkey? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Awww, common. Brent may be a wanker who never gets out to climb, but he's cool when you do drag him away from his fishing.
And I'm married to Chossy....so I guess that means I kinda like him.
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jumpingrock
May 25, 2006, 1:26 AM
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Nope. She's talking about me... though I maintain she was the one who zigged when she should have zagged. ;-)
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redlegrangerone
May 25, 2006, 1:31 AM
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Yes,I know Granitegirl. There is seldom a thread that has one of you without the other two. It was kind of a reference to the You Might Be a Brent_E thread.
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granite_grrl
May 25, 2006, 2:13 AM
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In reply to: Nope. She's talking about me... though I maintain she was the one who zigged when she should have zagged. ;-)
I will neither confirm nor deny that statement!!! (but you've gotta admit you'll never forget that climb now, will you ;) ).
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zenelky
Jun 9, 2006, 6:21 PM
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Do you already know other people who climb? My first time out with my new partner (whom I found on RC.com.......beautiful RC.com dating story to follow :D :D ) I went to a crag where I knew there would be a group of people I knew. That way if something did go freaky and he turned out to be the super psycho, 70 something, pedophile who was just there to eat small kittens and my jugular then there would be a group that I could opt to climb with after I hid his body.
Else, everyone's above advise is best....follow your instinct, you drive, bring your own tent, prepare for over estimations of your partners REAL abilities (i.e. be prepared to TR). Also go to a crag that you're already familiar with, it'll help ya feel more comfortable so that you can focus on if you two would have a good partnership rather than worrying about how you look trying to make it up a problem.
Also, don't go into things expecting the worst....I found my new partner on RC.com and now he and I are happier than I ever imagined (as a bit more than just climbing partners). Good luck!
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In reply to: I went to a crag where I knew there would be a group of people I knew. That way if something did go freaky and he turned out to be the super psycho, 70 something, pedophile who was just there to eat small kittens and my jugular then there would be a group that I could opt to climb with after I hid his body. |
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acacongua
Jun 12, 2006, 12:44 PM
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To climb with online? I'd rather climb with them in person.
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climbingbetty22
Jun 13, 2006, 1:32 AM
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Definitely take the advice offered here! I jus wanted to post up to say, give it a whirl. I may just be lucky, but so far, I won't have too much negative to say about guy's I've met on this site. When I went out to Red Rocks in April, my good trip was made into a f*cking fantastic trip by sevearl wonderful people I met from the site. As well, my boyfriend and I met because of RC.com! :D
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headchop
Jun 30, 2006, 2:06 PM
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In reply to: In reply to: I went to a crag where I knew there would be a group of people I knew. That way if something did go freaky and he turned out to be the super psycho, 70 something, pedophile who was just there to eat small kittens and my jugular then there would be a group that I could opt to climb with after I hid his body. Goodness, that was funny how many bad references you snuck in there. You deserve atrophy. |
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zenelky
Jun 30, 2006, 4:30 PM
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In reply to: In reply to: In reply to: I went to a crag where I knew there would be a group of people I knew. That way if something did go freaky and he turned out to be the super psycho, 70 something, pedophile who was just there to eat small kittens and my jugular then there would be a group that I could opt to climb with after I hid his body. Goodness, that was funny how many bad references you snuck in there. You deserve atrophy. Now that's just mean.
Thanks...I think nevenneve needs to relax. Most of the ladies know of one of these super creepy dudes and probably have had to climb with one :lol:
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Just want to add that I met my climbing partner here on RC.Com...we started off as climbing partners (with many wonderful climbing adventures) and now we are life partners. :D
Our paths would not have crossed were it not for RC.Com.
Go for it. If it's a climbing partner you want then RC.Com is a great tool to help you reach out to the local climbing community. I have climbed with many people that I met through RC.Com. If it's a life partner...well that could happen too!
Keep us posted.
Gail
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timstich
Aug 12, 2006, 10:34 PM
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I met my alpine climbing partner here and we have been doing something every weekend since I moved back. It was nice meeting her first at a little birthday party for a friend. That's always cool. We decided to go do a route one weekend and had a blast. In fact, even when our trips go a bit wrong we have a good time. Ha.
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anykineclimb
Aug 12, 2006, 11:44 PM
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Quite a few of the people I've climbed with lately are from this site.
Another thing you can do to stay safe is invite the new person to join your group. that way
1. Someone can watch him belay
2. you'll have other people to climb with if he's a flake
3. Plain ole safety in numbers
BTW, be sure you can run faster than your friends! ;)
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wanderinfree
Aug 14, 2006, 6:41 PM
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Meeting in a gym or climbing in a group are the best way to test out a new partner. On the rare occasion I've climbed outside with someone I didn't know and I couldn't arrange it in a gym, I've made sure that we hopped on routes that I could essentially solo.
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timstich
Aug 16, 2006, 12:03 AM
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In reply to: Meeting in a gym or climbing in a group are the best way to test out a new partner. On the rare occasion I've climbed outside with someone I didn't know and I couldn't arrange it in a gym, I've made sure that we hopped on routes that I could essentially solo.
Exactly. Which is what I will be doing later this week. I'd rather do that than opt for the climbing gym.
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climbinginchico
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My fiance and I re-met (long story) here on RC, and we do climb together... Worked out well for us. Then again, I'm not a crazy psycho stalker (at least that she knows about :wink: )
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