hey pappy,
it is nice and helpful to have a support group of friends to encourage each other. but ultimately you need to find your own motivation. i'm at the climbing festival here in australia and peter croft just gave his presentation on why he solos. seems like he began because his friends wanted to go drink at the pub at mid afternoon. he still wanted to climb so he began soloing mainly so he could climb. if you want to climb...climb. can't be dependent on other folks.
arno

[I have dealt with a similar experience, but instead of a lack of motivation, it was a poor attitude. One particular climbing partner is always very excited to go climbing; he talks and talks about all the routes he's going to lead, but his attitude worsens in direct proportion to how close we get to the crag.

Isn’t it remarkable that you can read a book like the Rock Warrior’s Way, possibly attend an Arno Ilgner clinic, and suddenly, it’s like the whole world opens up for you and you now see everyone and everything in a whole new light.

People are different, in fact, it seems like everyone you know is faced with all the challenges Ilgner describes in his book—everyone, that is but you.

You have no fear, and you fear nothing anymore. You rope up, step out on lead, and you are brimming with confidence, power, diligence, awareness. Fear does not embrace you, but you embrace fear and dance with it in a marvelous dance of oneness on the rock. You never allow yourself to feel angry, or frustrated, or scared anymore!

The people you are climbing with are the unfortunate ones, they are the unenlightened, the ones wrapped up in a black cloak of fear. Negativity is their disease and their minds are constantly interfering with their ability to even get tied in.

It becomes necessary to seek out these new partners, and to harbor them close.

You hope, like an abused woman, that your old partners will change—that they will rearrange their behavior and become positive like you. But you know, already, that your perception of them is altered forever. You are on the path of being a warrior. You cannot allow yourself to lose energy to a poor, hapless soul who will never be positive, never aware, never a warrior.

Interesting...I have a partner with the opposite problem, not lazy=no fun and not poor attitude=no fun, but a sort of opposite of that...a sort of over-exuberance=not fun.

This partner seems to push and push and push...at the crag, planning to go to crag, in conversations about climbing, and in response to others (climbers or not) who bring up climbing. It's become really irritating, especially since I work with this person, and it seems like she is either always trying to push me into making plans with her, and getting really angry if my plans change, sometimes she is pushing me into getting over my head at the crag while boasting about how awesome she is doing and telling me how she sent such and such or so and so, or she is pushing her opinions about climbing to me when we aren't climbing at all, but chit-chatting over a cup of java prior to a meeting.

It's become so annoying that I really don't want to hang with her, which is also unfortunate because I think she is a talented and inspiring climber, but her know-it-all attitude is really a bummer!

Interesting how vastly different problems can cause a similar reaction!

Interesting...I have a partner with the opposite problem, not lazy=no fun and not poor attitude=no fun, but a sort of opposite of that...a sort of over-exuberance=not fun.

This partner seems to push and push and push...at the crag, planning to go to crag, in conversations about climbing, and in response to others (climbers or not) who bring up climbing.

they seem to loose interest very fast. When they stop i will climb a lil by myself they may appear while im bouldering or they'll go off and get something t eat.

There are two issues here, and you should keep them separate.

1. When you're dealing with people, you can't place an order, and expect delivery. They are going to do what they're going to do. You can invite them to participate, encourage them, even lead them. Then, if they come along, great. If they sit on a rock and tell stories, well that's what they're going to do.

Sometimes folks will follow you, more often they won't. Don't give up, and try to be flexible.

2. For yourself, you must follow your heart, and keep sight of your goals. You have to do what you want to do, and you have to keep doing it your way. As you work toward your own goals, you can congratulate yourself on your progress, and always remain proud of your path.

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hmmn, interesting perspective?
or find different partners

I climb alone all the time. Once you get the bug you dont need friends lol,