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htotsu
Nov 23, 2006, 3:30 PM
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Styleboy, he already said it wasn't personal, so try to lighten up, okay? Your post ends with you asking what you should "tell her and do for her to make her feel safe and excited." Newsflash - you can't "make" anyone feel excited about anything. As for safety, you can inform her of techiniques and equipment that will increase the likelihood of safety, but you can't guarantee safety. She is quite reasonable (as are you) for feeling some fear when rockclimbing is involved.
Also, did you notice that you're already buying her gear when you're clearly not even convinced that this is something she'd like to do long term? I did. That's why I suggested earlier that you prepare yourself for the possibility that this isn't her thing. You don't seem to be leaving her much room for that, though, and you might want to reflect on whether you are putting too much pressure on her to like this. Let her set the pace and don't try to "make" her excited. If she digs it then the excitement will come on its own. Isn't that what happened for you?
Editing to add - you wrote that maybe she'll do those routes in the Spring "if she isn't too scared." There are other reasons to not want to climb. Some people just are not going to love it as much as you do. The last thing you want is for her to go along just because she knows how disappointed you'll be if she ends up not loving climbing. Then resentment will build, and you know, you just really want to skip all that and give her an out. I'm sure she'll appreciate knowing that you are into her whether or not she ends up sharing this with you, and that the investment in "stuff" is expendable. No matter what she chooses, that will be a good thing for her to hear (like now) if it is indeed true.
(This post was edited by htotsu on Nov 23, 2006, 3:36 PM)
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