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htotsu
Dec 5, 2006, 4:30 AM
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Aaaaaaaaaahhh. So they've met her, they just want to get to know her better. OK, that's diff. Well, if they're meddlesome and you just don't want to put her through that unless there's a really, really good reason (like if you become more serious) then I understand a little better where you must be coming from.
Sounds like your fam feels left out. Maybe they're worried. They need some kind of reassurrance of something - that they matter to you? That you still care about them? I dunno. I don't know how old you are, or how open your lines of communication are with them, but maybe this is worth talking to them about... calmly. Exploding over it will only make you look immature.
You could try this: explain that you do not see the need to have her over more unless it gets more serious, and that is not in the plans right now. When they press you, respond - calmly - that you understand their feelings, but the fact remains that... you do not see the need to have her over more unless it gets more serious, and that is not in the plans right now. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Eventually they will stop or go crazy. This will become far more frustrating than not having the girl over. It will also show that you have made your decision for now, and no amount of their whining will change it. They can either ruin all dinners in between now and the day when you bring her over, or they can accept that you, not they, will decide when you are ready to take that step.
Editing to add that I just saw your edit that she wants to go for Christmas. If she wants to then make the lady happy. Just give her an out of some kind in case things go family/holiday-haywire. Like, oh, plan to see Rocky Balboa or something. All the best!
(This post was edited by htotsu on Dec 5, 2006, 4:32 AM)
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