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clausti
Feb 12, 2009, 2:25 PM
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robbovius wrote: In reply to: Doesn't it strike you that the single Dads don't chime in because they, in general, don't have the same issues? If they need a wife, they hire out the tasks or let them go. Women feel they 'have' to be both parents . Pardon me, but the above is nonsense. perhaps it applies to your own life, based on your own experiences, but making such a sweeping generalization that marginalizes single fathers in what seems a feministically sexist way, offends me - as a single father - personally. I work two jobs to support myself and my son. My daughters nominally live with their mom who bailed out to go live with her boyfriend after the second daughter graduated from high school. Hiring an aupair? are you kidding? I clean when I can, and cajole/browbeat/guilt trip my son into doing some housework when I can. otherwise, well, its a happy cluttered mess. ...
i think one of the points that she was making is that MOST women don't have "happy cluttered mess"es. they only have highly stressful cluttered messes.
this is just one example of way in which, in general, men are better about just letting stuff go slash/ compartmentalizing.
me personally, i have several happy cluttered messes. me and my hubby are the opposite of what lena was talking about earlier.... we both agree things need to be done, but his threshold of what needs action is quite a bit lower than mine.
edited to fix the cheesetit
(This post was edited by clausti on Feb 12, 2009, 4:33 PM)
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Post edited by clausti
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