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Re: [wonderwoman] A Ladies Ideal Climbing Significant Other:
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happiegrrrl
Jan 8, 2011, 9:01 PM
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"If you could find your climbing ideal significant other what would he/she be like?"
I actually have found him; just think maybe he hasn't found me.
But, here's my ideal:
- Climbs harder than me, but happy to climb WITH me; seems to enjoy it and doesn't act like he's doing me a favor when he does.
- Actually is a safe, competent climber
- Strong enough emotional presence that I can actually be comfortable being vulnerable with them(Believe me, this has been an extremely elusive quality to find. I think I have met 2 men my entire life(that I have felt an attraction to) who I feel are emotionally stronger than I am.
- Kind
- Does not treat me with disdain or patronize me; considers my opinion/perspective valid even if it is one that differs from his
- Earthy sensuality
- Intelligence well above average
- Needs time to self and isn't clingy(I require an inordinate amount of time alone)
- Philosophical bent
- Has a sense of humor that is NOT focused on the pain, embarrassment/humiliation/deprecation of others
- Has TIME to climb that is not a squeeze job between work or other obligations
But -
It is important to not be too focused on looking for the "ideal," because we may not see/appreciate the "real" one when they cross our path.
And -
It is also important to keep the focus on ourselves. Instead of looking toward another to be "ideal," what am I doing in my life that is subpar, as a partner/potential partner to another. I have to admit, I am often shocked to see how selfish in my thinking I can often be.
(This post was edited by happiegrrrl on Jan 8, 2011, 9:03 PM)
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