NO!!!! If I wanted to talk dirty, I'd go to other sites for that. I want to talk about climbing. So, that being said, if anyone ever wants to have climbing conversations...I'd love that. Anyone who wants to get their virtual dick sucked or ass slapped go somewhere else!

You're welcome to send me a private message and tell me who this user was.

I'll be happy to climb the corner post and drop kick his ass outta here.

Sexual harassment is NOT allowed. If you feel you've been harassed, please let us know.

Here is a prime example of what I was talking about with over moderation or moderation going unchecked. How do you know this was valid case of Sexual harassment without speaking to both sides? Maybe this was just a misunderstanding of mixed signals. I'm not implying anything on the complaintants part because I don't know. But why make a statement like above without just saying "please send me a pm so I can investigate?" I to believe that there is no place for harassment but I am also for a fair investigation and fair action without bias prior to speaking with both sides. The statement above makes it look like you already have your mind made up, lets march the guilty bastard in and hang'em....hang'em high.


Mitt

Here is a prime example of what I was talking about with over moderation or moderation going unchecked. How do you know this was valid case of Sexual harassment without speaking to both sides? Maybe this was just a misunderstanding of mixed signals. I'm not implying anything on the complaintants part because I don't know. But why make a statement like above without just saying "please send me a pm so I can investigate?" I to believe that there is no place for harassment but I am also for a fair investigation and fair action without bias prior to speaking with both sides. The statement above makes it look like you already have your mind made up, lets march the guilty bastard in and hang'em....hang'em high.


Mitt

Here is a prime example of what I was talking about with over moderation or moderation going unchecked. How do you know this was valid case of Sexual harassment without speaking to both sides? Maybe this was just a misunderstanding of mixed signals. I'm not implying anything on the complaintants part because I don't know. But why make a statement like above without just saying "please send me a pm so I can investigate?" I to believe that there is no place for harassment but I am also for a fair investigation and fair action without bias prior to speaking with both sides. The statement above makes it look like you already have your mind made up, lets march the guilty bastard in and hang'em....hang'em high.

I appreciate the responses. As I said before I told him to leave me alone and so far he has. If he doesn't then I will take further actions. I just hope any other people lurking in the shadows will read this and think twice before imposing their inappropriate fantacies on me or any other women. And to be clear, there is nothing wrong with flirting, but that's not what it was.

take off your tinfoil hats folks, no conspiracy theory here! We've always had a no sexual harassment policy at rc.com, long before the new owners came on board.

I've also recieved several PM's from random guys who are all like "i saw ur profile pic ur cute we should meet up sumtime."

First of all, I think I at least deserve the respect that comes from actually spelling out "ur" words.

Secondly, were I looking for men, I would go elsewhere, not RC.com. So what if i have a crush on an RC.com boy? I'll never act on it, or pm him "OMG ur such a cutie we should like lol have babies! TTYL!"


f*ckbags.

Ok, if someone here made a real effort to go out to climb with me, spend time with me - sure, I'd fall for an RC.com boy.

However, starting out with a (and I quote) "damn girl, I'll belay you cause i wanna watch that" isn't the way to make a good first impression.

Im sorry I dont see what was sent to her to be sexual harrassement. She and another person of the opposite sex started talking, they had many things in common, and talked about everything from rocks, to life. He goes with the flow and brings up something of sexual nature, she freaks and tells him not to contact her again. So he hasnt since then. Wheres the harrassement? Wheres the "he did something wrong" This is just like the real world. If someone in a bar asks you out and you say no, do you stand at a mic and shout to everyone what a pervert this person is? I think this is a blantent attack on the man who started a friendship, felt a connection on a different level and went in to try to see if there was more to you and him. Hes on this site and you are posting this? He left you alone after you asked him to , so why come post this? To rub it in his face.... I find it funny that people can think they can get to know someone on a site like this and be shocked when approached.

The sexual harrassement card is played to often. I sexually harrass people all the time, and they love it

*disclaimer- sorry for being serious, Ill go back to my dusting....

Ok, if someone here made a real effort to go out to climb with me, spend time with me - sure, I'd fall for an RC.com boy.

However, starting out with a (and I quote) "damn girl, I'll belay you cause i wanna watch that" isn't the way to make a good first impression.

...I'll also apologize that a select few have decided to take your thread and concerns and turn it into their own pulpit to make up false allegations. Wish I could say it won't happen again, but.....

Reno, that's fucked up.

GO

Im sorry I dont see what was sent to her to be sexual harrassement. She and another person of the opposite sex started talking, they had many things in common, and talked about everything from rocks, to life. He goes with the flow and brings up something of sexual nature, she freaks and tells him not to contact her again. So he hasnt since then. Wheres the harrassement? Wheres the "he did something wrong" This is just like the real world. If someone in a bar asks you out and you say no, do you stand at a mic and shout to everyone what a pervert this person is? I think this is a blantent attack on the man who started a friendship, felt a connection on a different level and went in to try to see if there was more to you and him. Hes on this site and you are posting this? He left you alone after you asked him to , so why come post this? To rub it in his face.... I find it funny that people can think they can get to know someone on a site like this and be shocked when approached.

The sexual harrassement card is played to often. I sexually harrass people all the time, and they love it

*disclaimer- sorry for being serious, Ill go back to my dusting....

Huh?

Angry, simple-minded, balding, partially blind ex-circus flipper boy with a passion for covering lovers in sour cream and gravy seeks exotic, heavily tattooed piercing fanatic, preferably hairy, for whippings, bizarre sex and fashion consulting. No freaks.

What don't you get, Hillary? Reno thinks it's funny to drop kick users for bullshit reasons. I think that's fucked up. Is that clear enough?

GO

I getcha. I just didn't take him seriously.

Hes on this site and you are posting this? He left you alone after you asked him to , so why come post this? To rub it in his face....

...Pretty much any girl who is a big poster here (and even some who aren't) get awkward if not creepy PMs from guys. Every girl reacts differently. Most of the time, I think we just blow the PMs off (I do)...

I getcha. I just didn't take him seriously.

You're welcome to send me a private message and tell me who this user was.

I'll be happy to climb the corner post and drop kick his ass outta here.

Sexual harassment is NOT allowed. If you feel you've been harassed, please let us know.

1) Because she was mad. She has that right. Her post angered you, and you got to say so. That's how it works.

2) To say that if anyone else happens to be interested in such discussions with her, they are not welcome. She wants to talk about climbing

You yourself wrote that men are likely to want to approach her that way. She is simply saving them the trouble.

If she feels there's a time and a place for it then she gets do decide when she is comfortable getting hit on

She's allowed to have different boundaries from yours.

I only have one question are you sure your not a climber

Huh?

Oh, and organic, quitcher trollin'!

edit: I forgot my tonguey face!

I wrote that to someone else actually, the person I wrote that to was a sexy, funny, and intelligent person. I dont know the original poster nor have I seen their picture.

and thats a fair assessment coming from someone who is attacking someone for having a different assessment then you.

However when you respond to me, make sure your not twisting what I say and who I say it to

In all honestly thats not correct, if she wanted to just talk about climbing then she would have changed the subject way before he mentioned the BDSM thing. She herself stated they talked about everything and were becoming friends.

We talked about climbing and life. It was very nice...then he started talking about dominant women grabbing his ass.

If someone doesnt like to get hit on then they should say so in a way not to embarrasse the person thats hitting on them.
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Darn Ill just stick with the bazillion others who prefer to not have to try to read my mind or guess what my posts mean. ...

Well, I like pinching man butt. But a truly pinchable man butt is hard to find!

I heard there was a horse in here.... should I kick him or is he still alive?

You don't kick him...you beat him

kick , beat , suck, there all verbs

I'm trying not to get sick after having way too much Jager

so why am I the one who feels like shyte!

Pretty much any girl who is a big poster here (and even some who aren't) get awkward if not creepy PMs from guys. Every girl reacts differently.

Why aren't our (guys) pm boxes filling up with awkward or creepy emails? Thats sexual descrimination!! I won't stand for it

And GO, I see how you think that. I kinda figured people would react that way when I first read the post, given the current milieu of the site. But I simply don't personally believe that reno meant to sound overzealous.

He probly wanted to investigate the matter, as mods always do when somebody makes such a claim, and was just trying to inject some levity.

Reno is known around here and while not everybody agrees with him, especially in the community forum, he's an active long-time member who actually knows people offline and has definitely made his personality known online. So there's one major reason why I choose to sympathize with him, but am not so ready to give some other managers the benefit of the doubt when they publicly step on their dodes.

A sample of pm's over my membership:

user1:
funny post...lol. i bet u do enjoy that bulge lol jk. and u are kinda hot lol.

user1(later): ur a babe why dont u write back lol

*****

user2: You are hot.

*****

someone who posts here a lot who may have been drunk when he sent me this:

Um, I'm way too old to hit on you too, sorry.

But you seem like a fun person.

*****

a small sample of the funny shit guys do.

someone who posts here a lot who may have been drunk when he sent me this:

Um, I'm way too old to hit on you too, sorry.

But you seem like a fun person.

A sample of pm's over my membership:

user1:
funny post...lol. i bet u do enjoy that bulge lol jk. and u are kinda hot lol.

user1(later): ur a babe why dont u write back lol

Hey wait a minute--who else is old and drunk around here?

Curt

wouldn't you all love to know.

Hey wait a minute--who else is old and drunk around here?

Curt

Hey wait a minute--who else is old and drunk around here?

Curt

It's like E. E. Cummings for the illiterate.

I didn't think anyone did

Several mods jumped in to do just that. He was the only one who seemed eager to play judge, jury, and executioner before the case even came to court.

That's not what I was trying to do, Gabe, cracklover, and you damn well know it. Trying to read more into my post makes you look like an idiot at best.

Would you feel better if I had said "Tough shit, tootsie... suck it up and get over it"?

Quit acting like a jackass. If you have a problem with what I've said, or don't understand the context, perhaps you could ask me for clarification, rather than make up stupid bullshit theories.

Is this you trying to prove that you're not aggressive, obnoxious and dictatorial?

Don't you think being this defensive makes it kind of obvious that even you feel you may have overstepped the mark?

I didn't make up any lies, Reno. And quit calling me a conspiracy theorist, macherry. I simply read what you wrote, Reno. If you didn't mean what you wrote, all you have to do is say "I didn't mean it." Case closed.

Would you feel better if I had said "Tough shit, tootsie... suck it up and get over it"?

I didn't make up any lies, Reno. And quit calling me a conspiracy theorist, macherry. I simply read what you wrote, Reno. If you didn't mean what you wrote, all you have to do is say "I didn't mean it." Case closed. Saying "I was being funny" means "I meant it, and I thought it was funny to drop kick a user". Well it's not particularly funny.
GO

to all that have been stalking and soliciting me...please stop...my dog is not dead yet.

Love

MaD

I'm not saying it's sexual harrassment, it's just real fricken annoying.

I have not clicked on the link below and have no idea what sort of porn it will lead you to (my guess is gay porn, not that there is anything wrong with it). Click on it at your own risk and report back.


http://www.rockhard.com

Including lurkers?

*cheers*

Jay

I don't think that would be a hell of a lot better, no. You go ahead and say things however you want, just don't be surprised if the users don't like it!

I appreciate your wanting to sympathize with the poster. How about something like:

"We take sexual harassment very seriously on rc.com. If you feel threatened by any individual, we will gladly intervene to insure that our TOS is enforced. If the guy still doesn't get the message, buh-bye."

Sympathetic, with a touch of humor, but neutral in terms of who's right/wrong, and without the sense of zeal in kicking out a user based on what little was said by the OP.

GO

Wouldn't use of the word "still," seem to also indicate a prejudgment of guilt?

I wonder... Maybe the trouble is that in matters like this, maybe it's not the best tack to be overly sympathetic to perceived accusations.

A lecture from tradman on being impartial.... that's irony at it's finest.

Reno, I don't have to be impartial because, well, I'm not a moderator.

You are, by the way. Because you seem to have forgotten.