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clausti
Jul 21, 2005, 2:46 PM
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yeah... climbing + backrub = :idea: seems to be the preferred formula.
excuse me while i return to the life which will lead to me being married to a neuroscientist who cant do a pullup at the age of 30....
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junaid
Jul 25, 2005, 7:27 AM
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ok so i am the clueless guy. actually i was looking around in the womens room for that reason. sorry. Tavs, you said it best. do something non climbing to get things along.
And yeah ask us out. I've missed opportunities i didn't even know existed at the time, sometimes ones i would have certainly acted on. Sometimes I'm not sure whether flirting is actually happening. so be direct from time to time, never assume we are 'picking up your signals'. In fact assume we aren't picking up any. oh and asking US out does NOT make us think your desperate, just confident.
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andrewbanandrew
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I'm gonna say that a lot of climbers are pretty dense on both sides so this makes for some interesting flirting in the campgrounds, from what I've seen.
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foxtrotuniform
Aug 4, 2005, 7:12 PM
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This is a pretty easy one. If you're climbing with some guy, lets call him JimBob, and you start to romantically like him, just ask him out on a date. Climbers are capable of doing something besides pulling on rocks on the weekends right?
You've got to break the norm of what you've been doing and shake the pot a little if you want things to change, otherwise you will both settle into your respective roles as climbing partners.
Now the part that everyone fucks up is this. If the date sucks, or if you are picking up negative vibes on a romantic level, finish it up and get back to being climbing partners.
Just be sure to press on with the next interest and don't harp on, "Wah wah, why dosen't he like me." There's 18 bazillion guys out there, and it's not worth your time to try and convince one into liking you. You'll only end up pissed at the world.
As my co-worker says, "Quit being a **ssy about it and press on." That's my new mantra.
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indynshrty
Aug 5, 2005, 1:53 PM
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Well said. :D
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lewisiarediviva
Aug 6, 2005, 12:31 AM
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In reply to: Climbing is a great way to develope a close friendship, but if you want to take it to the next level, ask the guy out on a real date.
What's a real date?
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andrewbanandrew
Aug 7, 2005, 4:21 PM
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I don't really understand the notion of a 'date'
If one person starts flirting and the other person flirts back, anything you are doing has essentially become a 'date'.
Why do people go on dates? To flirt with each other.
I tend to avoid using the word 'date' altogether as it seems to intimidate or put pressure on some girls.
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clausti
Aug 7, 2005, 5:40 PM
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the purpose of a "real date" is the declaration of intentions. sure maybe you're both flirting climbing, but who knows what that means, could mean nothing. whereas, in contrast, by definition, if one person asks another out, days in advance, for a specific time, that is a "date" and it means "i like you." acceptence of said offer means "i am at least willing to give you a chance." and then you see where you go from there.
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kasharp
Aug 7, 2005, 9:18 PM
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a lot of people flirt unconsciously, subconsciously, unintentionally, whatever, without being "interested" in the other person, so i think that by asking someone on a date you're saying "hey, i'd like this to maybe go somewhere" and you find out if the other person was flirting with interest, or just being friendly. if that makes any sense. i guess it makes sense to me because i've been told that i flirt "all the time" and i don't think i do... just being friendly, but if a guy asks me out and i'm not interested, i decline. simple. flirting is very open to interpretation in my opinion
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foxtrotuniform
Aug 8, 2005, 5:05 AM
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In reply to: a lot of people flirt unconsciously, subconsciously, unintentionally, whatever, without being "interested" in the other person, so i think that by asking someone on a date you're saying "hey, i'd like this to maybe go somewhere" and you find out if the other person was flirting with interest, or just being friendly. if that makes any sense. i guess it makes sense to me because i've been told that i flirt "all the time" and i don't think i do... just being friendly, but if a guy asks me out and i'm not interested, i decline. simple. flirting is very open to interpretation in my opinion
I agree. For some reason people are so cryptic with their romantic intentions. If I like someone, I feel there's chemistry, and am romantically interested, I tell them so. The WORST that can happen is they'll turn you down. But if you can be adults about it, neither of you should harbor any wierd feelings or ill blood.
Or you could become a stalker psycho. that also seems to be a popular option.
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clee03m
Aug 8, 2005, 2:36 PM
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I like the making out option. Really no mixed messages there.
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lhwang
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I'd have to agree with the whole "real date" thing being about declaring intentions! I don't think climbing equates to asking someone out on a date... if I ask a guy to climb with me, it's usually because I need a climbing partner! Incidentally, me and my boyfriend met climbing but I don't think we would have gotten together if he hadn't asked me out for a drink afterwards one day. In fact he told me that in the beginning he was kind of reluctant to flirt with me because he knows a lot of climbing girls who hate that guys hit on them when they just want to climb.
I've been looking for a weekday climbing partner through postings on a few climbing forums (my boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend are my two main climbing partners and they work regular hours), and with maybe two exceptions, all of the replies I've gotten are from single men who send me their pictures and short bios. They're keen on going climbing until I mention that I have a boyfriend, and then I never hear from them again. I also have a friend who deliberately conceals the fact that she's married in order to string her climbing partners along.
Anyone else have this experience???
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jeepinchrisc
Sep 3, 2005, 6:30 PM
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No. I am ugly and drool all over myself any time I get within 5ft. of a woman! Wanna go climbing?
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Chris
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lagr01
Sep 21, 2005, 5:38 PM
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In reply to: And yeah ask us out. I've missed opportunities i didn't even know existed at the time, sometimes ones i would have certainly acted on. Sometimes I'm not sure whether flirting is actually happening. so be direct from time to time, never assume we are 'picking up your signals'. In fact assume we aren't picking up any. oh and asking US out does NOT make us think your desperate, just confident.
Those damn subtle signals. I even miss the road signals for god sakes!
People should wear traffic lights on their heads if you ask me. But no yellow lights, those would be confusing. :nono:
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clausti
Sep 22, 2005, 2:35 AM
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In reply to: In reply to: And yeah ask us out. I've missed opportunities i didn't even know existed at the time, sometimes ones i would have certainly acted on. Sometimes I'm not sure whether flirting is actually happening. so be direct from time to time, never assume we are 'picking up your signals'. In fact assume we aren't picking up any. oh and asking US out does NOT make us think your desperate, just confident. Those damn subtle signals. I even miss the road signals for god sakes! People should wear traffic lights on their heads if you ask me. But no yellow lights, those would be confusing. :nono:
the sororities at my school actually throw traffic light parties. wear red if you're taken, green if you're availible, and yellow if you're not sure.
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vawwyakr
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In reply to: I'd have to agree with the whole "real date" thing being about declaring intentions! I don't think climbing equates to asking someone out on a date... if I ask a guy to climb with me, it's usually because I need a climbing partner! Incidentally, me and my boyfriend met climbing but I don't think we would have gotten together if he hadn't asked me out for a drink afterwards one day. In fact he told me that in the beginning he was kind of reluctant to flirt with me because he knows a lot of climbing girls who hate that guys hit on them when they just want to climb. I've been looking for a weekday climbing partner through postings on a few climbing forums (my boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend are my two main climbing partners and they work regular hours), and with maybe two exceptions, all of the replies I've gotten are from single men who send me their pictures and short bios. They're keen on going climbing until I mention that I have a boyfriend, and then I never hear from them again. I also have a friend who deliberately conceals the fact that she's married in order to string her climbing partners along. Anyone else have this experience??? |
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In reply to: the sororities at my school actually throw traffic light parties. wear red if you're taken, green if you're availible, and yellow if you're not sure. |
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artaxerxes
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In reply to: the sororities at my school actually throw traffic light parties. wear red if you're taken, green if you're availible, and yellow if you're not sure.
Yeah, I saw some girl wearing red at one of those, but she also was wearing a piece of paper that said, "Like you've never run a red light?"
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chanf
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ouf! how's that for cryptic.
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lewisiarediviva
Sep 26, 2005, 3:39 AM
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:lol: :lol: :lol:
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stymingersfink
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In reply to: In reply to: the sororities at my school actually throw traffic light parties. wear red if you're taken, green if you're availible, and yellow if you're not sure. Yeah, I saw some girl wearing red at one of those, but she also was wearing a piece of paper that said, "Like you've never run a red light?"
:D
...as I once heard "Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't make a slap-shot" :lol:
Not a hockey fan, but I get it. Yellow? Doesn't that mean go real fast?
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crazy_bout_climbing
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I always ask guys to come climb with me. Yes I''ll admit that I usually am interested in them, but if nothing else, I'll get to know them a little better.
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ricardol
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my $0.02 ..
for climbers.. asking someone of the opposite sex to go climbing is a "safe" date .. since you can both just say .. we're just climbing ..
.. its an easy way to gauge if the other person is interested ..
if there is good chemistry then you can go for a "real" date ..
.. in a real date .. dinner + drinks .. there is a definite open gesture of "I like you.. " ..
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so bottom line .. a climbing date is a just a stalling tactic if you are both climbers already .. (if the other person is not a climber thoguh, then its a real date) ..
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... to me i like to do non-climbing related things for dates, since i know that when i date a climber girl we'll do lots of climbing in the future.. i want to make sure that she also likes to do other fun stuff .. --
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my $.02
i really dislike real dates. too much pressure, too formal. every romantic relationship i've ever had has just kind of evolved out of knowing the person and being friends, and then one day you're making out, and... and then you just keep hanging out, with this new angle on your relationship. i much prefer this way over "real" dates, not that i've been on many, but the ones i have been on have felt way too forced, ended up making me uncomfortable and really not want to spend time with the guy again. but that's just me. and didn't really have anything to do with climbing... oh well. :roll:
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