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dwise
Jul 23, 2007, 9:58 PM
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Trade her in for one with the climbing upgrade Her not climbing will affect more than just the honeymoon. Next it will be compromising over ALL vacations.
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stymingersfink
Jul 24, 2007, 12:52 AM
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dwise wrote: Trade her in for one with the climbing upgrade Her not climbing will affect more than just the honeymoon. Next it will be compromising over ALL vacations. Listen to this man... he speaks the TRUTH!
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suzie_cuzie
Jul 24, 2007, 2:20 PM
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stymingersfink wrote: dwise wrote: Trade her in for one with the climbing upgrade Her not climbing will affect more than just the honeymoon. Next it will be compromising over ALL vacations. Listen to this man... he speaks the TRUTH! It's true, I think. Look at how many pro climbers marry other climbers. The only one who can put up with someone whose life revolves around climbing is someone else whose life revolves around climbing.
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markc
Jul 24, 2007, 2:56 PM
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suzie_cuzie wrote: stymingersfink wrote: dwise wrote: Trade her in for one with the climbing upgrade Her not climbing will affect more than just the honeymoon. Next it will be compromising over ALL vacations. Listen to this man... he speaks the TRUTH! It's true, I think. Look at how many pro climbers marry other climbers. The only one who can put up with someone whose life revolves around climbing is someone else whose life revolves around climbing. Not true. I know multiple climbers in happy relationships with non-climbers. It's all about having a relationship with mutual trust and respect for your independent interests. While you may have a harder time balancing climbing trips with regular trips (or climbing and non-climbing interests on the same trips), it can be done. It's true of people I know that go to music festivals, comic conventions, or other things their partners don't dig. Regarding the OP, there isn't enough other information to provide an insightful answer. What's your budget? Do you want to stay in the states (if you're in the US) or do you want to go abroad? What sorts of things does your girlfriend like? Would she be more interested in the beach or the mountains? Would she rather lounge about, visit museums and soak up the culture of somewhere exotic, or go for hikes? Are there enough attractions to keep her entertained while you're away for the day? It sounds like you're focusing on the one day of climbing you might get in. I say hire a guide to make the most of your day (and so you don't have to take a lot of your own gear) and plan most of the trip around her interests. Edit: typo
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reg
Jul 24, 2007, 3:10 PM
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flowin wrote: we have to realistic, none of us are machines, i think one day of climbing would be ok, i know for a fact she wouldnt mind it. of course of course, but ur missing the point. make it all about her and the both of you. u don't have to be superman in bed for a week - that's bs! just enjoy being with each other and focus on doin stuff together. period! ya hear? edit: as a matter of fact - go somewhere with no climbing! edit: actually, i think ur to young to get married.
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dynosore
Jul 24, 2007, 4:00 PM
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Take a cheaper trip, and save some of the money for marriage counseling, you're going to need it with your selfish attitude...good luck
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flowin
Jul 24, 2007, 4:56 PM
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according to your thinking....i should just do the climbing because it is doomed anyway.
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markc
Jul 24, 2007, 5:12 PM
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I may be more optimistic than dynosore, so I'll suggest skipping a big wedding and an expensive honeymoon. That sort of cash can go a long way as the down payment on a house. If you decide to stick with the honeymoon and the climbing, I have a thought for you. Midway through the trip, schedule a spa day for your wife (if she's into that kind of thing). Go for the works, as the more time she's being pampered equals more climbing time for you. If possible, schedule a massage for both of you at the very end of the spa day. You can get off the rock, grab a quick shower, get massaged together, and enjoy the evening from there. You'll both have a chance to indulge, and you can show that you're considering her pleasures as well as your own. As far as where to go, just marry and honeymoon in Vegas. The climbing at Red Rocks is great.
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flowin
Jul 24, 2007, 5:48 PM
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markc I like the way you think....I thru out vegas to her and she didnt bite. We were there 2 years ago and the honeymoon has to be more romatic. We get married in 2 months, if nothing is settled, we are going nowhere!
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jcinco
Jul 24, 2007, 5:51 PM
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wonderwoman wrote: andypro wrote: Thailand! Or somewhere in the alps. but Thailand would be cool...very honeymooney...and plenty else to do. --Andy P I second the Thailand suggestion! Been there, done that, and loved it! I've said it once, I'll say it a hundred times... Thailand is awesome but I cannot recommend it for a honeymoon. It is just way too hot to get you in the mood for romance. When my significant other (now wife) and I were there, the heat/humidity was so intense we hardly wanted to touch each other in bed, much less get frisky. If you must do Thailand for a honeymoon, then it is MANDATORY that you stay somewhere with air conditioning. My wide and I did Sardinia for our pre-honeymoon, and then spent a long weekend in Santa Fe right after the wedding. Sardinia has awesome beaches, lots of non-climbing things to do, and awesome beach crags in the Cala Gonone area that rival the best at Railay. Other places I've been that would be similarly cool for a honeymoon that have climbing would be Mallorca and the Provence region of France. Not much climbing right on the beach in either place though. We thought about Kalymnos, but my impression is that there is little to do there but climb. What about Paris and Northern France? You could hit Font for a day or so. There are some super easy circuits there that even a climber with zero experience could have fun on.
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limeydave
Jul 24, 2007, 7:59 PM
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flowin wrote: markc I like the way you think....I thru out vegas to her and she didnt bite. We were there 2 years ago and the honeymoon has to be more romatic. We get married in 2 months, if nothing is settled, we are going nowhere! Mate - you said you know for a fact she wouldn't mind one days climbing - which means to me she's cool and you two will be ok. So ignore all this "honeymoons are just for humping", and she's a princess crap... A nice beach spot with some bouldering is probably order of the day, I can't think of anywhere off hand, but Caribbean? Maybe New Zealand? I went there last year, and it was really nice plenty of rock at the beaches. Have a great time and support each other in your interests from day one. Don't try to conform to the bullshit expectations. It's you and her against the world. Just wish my ex-wife (honeymoon in Maui, golf with the father-in-law followed by a guilt trip) could've understood that.... $0.02 - LimeyDave
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erin
Jul 24, 2007, 8:22 PM
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why don't you do something like skiing where you still get your activity, but she doesn't have to climb if that's not her thing. Then you can cuddle by the fire :)
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flowin
Jul 24, 2007, 10:03 PM
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i am with you limeydave, problem with carribean is hurricane season.....maybe farther south. New Zealand is to far, i can only get off of work for a week.....great advice. I am sharing these with her as i get them.
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flowin
Jul 24, 2007, 10:06 PM
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she is cool, i would probably hire a guide for the day and she would chill by the pool or go to the spa....so i wouldnt drag her around. she is totally cool with me climbing one day, the problem is location at this point.
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flowin
Jul 24, 2007, 10:07 PM
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she is looking for out of country. i love the west....she doesnt know what she is missing with it.
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limeydave
Jul 25, 2007, 1:59 PM
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flowin wrote: she is looking for out of country. i love the west....she doesnt know what she is missing with it. I found this thread with some good suggestions - US Virgin Islands and a few others...lucky bastard... :) http://www.rockclimbing.com/...20bouldering;#239477
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