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stonefoxgirl
Aug 3, 2007, 11:08 AM
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Ummmm, what's the scenario being talked about here? Job interview? Post date? Helping someone move?
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petsfed
Aug 3, 2007, 1:06 PM
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uhoh wrote: I don't understand this whole, '"Call me at (x) time," and no response or call back' thing. What is that shit about? Was I not supposed to call? Is there some sort of mind game being played that I don't understand? What the fuck?
Can you give us a time line here? Like you called 10 minutes ago and nobody picked up, and you haven't received a call back yet?
It could be they are too busy to call back. It could be that they are in some horrible car wreck and are unable to call back.
If its really that important, wait a few days, try again, then let it go.
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kimmyt
Aug 3, 2007, 2:56 PM
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She's just not that into you.
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petsfed
Aug 3, 2007, 3:28 PM
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There's that too.
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lena_chita
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Aug 3, 2007, 4:11 PM
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uhoh wrote: I don't understand this whole, '"Call me at (x) time," and no response or call back' thing. What is that shit about? Was I not supposed to call? Is there some sort of mind game being played that I don't understand? What the fuck?
When someone asks you to call at X time, the proper thing to do is to call at the said time. You did that-- well done. Now the ball is not in your court (assuming that you called the correct number, of course).
The rest depends on the circumstances.
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lena_chita
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uhoh wrote: Though this has happened before, this recent incident began when I went to a job fair. She and I knew each other and we coincidentally ran into one another. Completely unplanned. Anyway, she asked me to call her the next day and I did. I caught her just as she was getting ready to leave for work. We talked for a moment and she asked me to call her at 5 the next day after she got out of class. Done. No answer, no problem - a message was left asking if she felt like grabbing a bite to eat. Whenever we run into one another we usually end up having lunch as friends - no bullshit. Here I sit a day later and no call back. Like I said, this has happened before with other women, all casual acquaintances with no other alterior motives (except in one case but that's another story).
So why the heck you are sitting here wondering about it if it is casual friend and no more than that?
uhoh wrote: Is it me? Is there some sort of hidden girl thing taking place that I'm not aware of? What is this shit all about?
O.K., don't know you, but I noticed that some people always say "call me, we should get together for lunch or something" and all they mean by that is: nice seeing you. I don't dislike you or anything, and I am sure we'll run into each other sometime again--maybe in a year or so. Nothing against you, but socializing you is very low on my priority list right now-- however I want to keep you in the large pool of people I MIGHT someday need or want to meet for lunch...
And no, it is not girl-specific. I've witnessed a co-worker of mine saying it dozens of time. He means absolutely nothing by it, may not even be aware of what exactly he is saying, for all I know, and certainly doesn't intend to meet the person he is thus addressing at any specific date for lunch.
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uhoh
Aug 3, 2007, 10:35 PM
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I'm wondering about it because I've never had a reason in the past to not take statements like that literally. It's never been an issue until relatively recently.
Thanks for clearing that up though.
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Too many fish in the sea to get hung up on her.
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stymingersfink
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Perhaps you should Ask the NOOB this question, I'm sure a subtle clue will be provided for you there.
edit to add:
Allez! Homard!
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olive
Aug 5, 2007, 9:48 AM
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This is fun to read but doesnt this belong to campground? I mean, why ladies room, sure there are ladies who can answer, but I think campground would serve this better.
(Edited to change community into campground. I guess I am still not used to the fact that ladies room is in "community". But then, what do I know.)
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uhoh
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trebork2 wrote: Too many fish in the sea to get hung up on her.
Yeah. It's a hard lesson to learn though.
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unabonger
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uhoh wrote: I don't understand this whole, '"Call me at (x) time," and no response or call back' thing. What is that shit about? Was I not supposed to call? Is there some sort of mind game being played that I don't understand?
Yes. She sensed you'd be a reactive, defensive wuss who would get offended if she didn't answer. Ergo, since she doesn't want to hang out with a guy like that, she didn't answer...
And yes. You missed a subtle clue. She's not comfortable with you.
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robbovius
Aug 6, 2007, 11:02 AM
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you guys are young, right? in your 20s maybe?
young people=drama.
good luck with that.
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wanderlustmd
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lena has it right.
Not much to add other than people are stupid.
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uhoh wrote: trebork2 wrote: Too many fish in the sea to get hung up on her. Yeah. It's a hard lesson to learn though.
Dude you are into paintball...
Hopefully you don't tell the chicks this.
You are probably ugly thats no big deal...
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diophantus
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lena_chita wrote: So why the heck you are sitting here wondering about it if it is casual friend and no more than that?
She's probably hot. If an ugo blows you off no biggie.
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wjca
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Maybe her gaydar went off.
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Maybe she's just busy, it's only been a day!
I frequently hold off on calling people back until a) I have time to do so &/or b) I know my schedule so that I can actually organise something without having to cancel due to work/other commitments. She's just an acquaintance so you might not be the highest thing on her priority list right now. Don't take it personally, keep doing your thing and she'll get back to you when she gets back to you.
If it goes over a few days, send a brief message asking if she still wants to catch up. If she doesn't respond to that, she isn't interested. Easy.
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stymingersfink
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RockSplittail wrote: Maybe she's just busy, it's only been a day! I frequently hold off on calling people back until a) I have time to do so &/or b) I know my schedule so that I can actually organise something without having to cancel due to work/other commitments. She's just an acquaintance so you might not be the highest thing on her priority list right now. Don't take it personally, keep doing your thing and she'll get back to you when she gets back to you. If it goes over a few days, send a brief message asking if she still wants to catch up. If she doesn't respond to that, she isn't interested. Easy.
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bent_gate
Aug 7, 2007, 8:36 AM
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Why? Because women sense desperation like a bear senses fear.
(sorry to be harsh).
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limeydave
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uhoh wrote: I don't understand this whole, '"Call me at (x) time," and no response or call back' thing. What is that shit about? Was I not supposed to call? Is there some sort of mind game being played that I don't understand? What the fuck?
10 days later.
Did she call?
Are you hiding in the bushes outside her place?
What's going on?
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limeydave
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uhoh wrote: I don't understand this whole, '"Call me at (x) time," and no response or call back' thing. What is that shit about? Was I not supposed to call? Is there some sort of mind game being played that I don't understand? What the fuck?
Bump. (Day 13)
You put your embarrassment out there.
Now give us some CLOSURE! dammit.
I'm gonna start making up endings to this one pretty soon.
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