"We had a lovely night over a few glasses of wine and some food."??

Reads to me like her gaydar might've twitched.

I really hope she was bluffing and is not frantically learning to sing or play guitar or whatever. Bring a something to record video with just in case.

"We had a lovely night over a few glasses of wine and some food."??

Reads to me like her gaydar might've twitched.

if eating food and drinking wine with a woman is gay then I must be the gayest man ever

Dude, rockers pull a lot of tail. Go to the gig, alone, without flowers... just be ready to stand in line. And don't leave early if she sucks, unless of course that is a deal breaker for you.

Fixied.

... and make sure you turn up absolutely trashed!

would you find it less gay if it was with a man?

weird

Well, I'm in Australia, so this could actually be the best advice yet.

At least she'll see your worst side right from the start.

I've seen a few of loud and drunken bogans managing to hook up with hot looking women, so you may be onto something here.

Do you think I should wait until she gets her tongue out of the other guy's mouth to give her the flowers?

Vicious
you hit me with a flower
You do it every hour
oh, baby, you're so vicious

Man, that reminds me that I haven't listened to Lou Reed Live since my old cassette player died. I will have to find it on a slightly more modern device.

Just buy yourself an old car. Our 97 truck has a cassette player in it.

Ok, so I went to the gig, sober, with a friend and without flowers.

Apparently the correct approach is a mixed one none of us was aware of and I accidentally ended up going for.

I'm late all the time, and last night I got also caught up with other stuff and ended up arriving at the bar right after she finished performing. Her greeting was 'where were you?', not recriminating but in a smiley friendly way. She immediately dumped the people she was with and stayed with me. My friend made up something about meeting with some people somewhere else and left after he finished his beer.

She mentioned she was actually glad I didn't make it to her performance because it's been a while since the last time she was on stage and told me she was rusty and made a couple of mistakes and would've felt embarrassed if I was there. So I told her, 'well, you went kind of weird when I told you about coming to the gig, so I was wondering about that' and she said 'so that's why you got here late?'. Of course I couldn't miss such an opportunity, so I said 'um, yes, of course... absolutely'. She looked at me like she wasn't 100% convinced but smiled and said 'well, thank you then'. We ended up having a great night and we'll go out this weekend.

So I guess everything went great and I was over-thinking everything (as usual).

Thanks for all the advice anyway, even though you all FAILED miserably. At least people found this thread amusing.

By the way, when we were walking from the bar I saw a drunken bogan sitting on the footpath at the front of some dodgy night club. There was a hot/slutty looking girl with a microscopic mini-skirt (and apparently no panties) trying to help him stand up. It reminded me of kachoong's 'show up trashed' advice. I still think he must be onto something.