|
ifly
Nov 18, 2006, 6:45 AM
Post #1 of 13
(2301 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Nov 18, 2006
Posts: 7
|
I just missed his call 
Haven't heard from him in a little over a week, and I missed his call   
I find it very difficult to sleep at all with him gone. I feel like I am not copeing well at all. And I'm just sad. And not making any sense.
I want him back
Anyone else out there know what I mean? 
|
|
|
|
|
hangerlessbolt
Nov 18, 2006, 9:01 AM
Post #2 of 13
(2290 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Dec 2, 2001
Posts: 7255
|
I know what it feels like on his end.
The times that I called home and didn't receive an answer were very difficult.
It happened quite a bit...hell, you can't spend your whole day sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring. I understand that.
When she did answer...oh man, no sweeter sound.
Though, I'll admit that there were times when my bitterness came through in my voice...for those times she didn't answer.
A very difficult time for both of us...
May he come home soon.
-RB
|
|
|
|
|
htotsu
Nov 18, 2006, 1:42 PM
Post #3 of 13
(2275 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Aug 11, 2005
Posts: 673
|
Very sorry ifly. Has to be rough.
There's nothing like actually hearing eachother's voices, I'm sure. But I do believe there is something to knowing that, wherever he is and wherever you are, you are thinking about eachother.
|
|
|
|
|
ifly
Nov 22, 2006, 7:03 AM
Post #4 of 13
(2161 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Nov 18, 2006
Posts: 7
|
Your perspective means alot to me; thank you 
I get the bitterness aspect you boys must feel I feel as though I'm letting him down when I miss a call... like - all I can do is be here for him, and I feel like I'm letting him down when I'm not able to do the simplest of things for him.
Loving a man in uniform was never apart of life's plan. Funny how life has a plan of its own.
11 more months to go. . .
(This post was edited by ifly on Nov 22, 2006, 7:24 AM)
|
|
|
|
|
mattyp
Dec 10, 2006, 6:07 PM
Post #6 of 13
(2036 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Sep 5, 2003
Posts: 162
|
No news is good news. That is what I tell my family every time I deploy over to this place. Stay busy and the time will pass quickly. That is how we cope with it, staying busy.
May he return safely.
|
|
|
|
|
mankypin
Dec 12, 2006, 7:13 PM
Post #7 of 13
(1994 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Nov 3, 2005
Posts: 34
|
Anytime I got anything from home it kicked ass. From the parents or siblings was great, but something from the GF was the cat's meow. You gotta know that whatever you send will be thrown across a packed room to him and if there's perfume or a chocolate smell emanating from it, Suhweeet! Letters are good, food is better, pictures, video or tunes are stellar. Go climbing with some GIRLS, and send back photos or video of you. That's what he misses. Sounds like he's a lucky guy.
(This post was edited by mankypin on Dec 12, 2006, 7:15 PM)
|
|
|
|
|
ifly
Dec 14, 2006, 6:36 AM
Post #8 of 13
(1955 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Nov 18, 2006
Posts: 7
|
mankypin wrote: You gotta know that whatever you send will be thrown across a packed room to him and if there's perfume or a chocolate smell emanating from it, Suhweeet!
Check and check   Lots of his fav. snacks, some skydiving vids (it's like porn )...
It just isn't enough, you know? And last weekend, when I was out climbing, for some serrious R&R with the ladies, I missed another call
Matt, how much do you have left of this deployment? And I don't like your "no news" rule...More phone calls of good news damn it!
(This post was edited by ifly on Dec 14, 2006, 6:49 AM)
|
|
|
|
|
sway-reincarnate
Mar 8, 2007, 12:31 PM
Post #9 of 13
(1799 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Feb 21, 2007
Posts: 34
|
actually i do have to agree that sometimes no news is good news, I myself have left my husband behind to run the house and all that twice now, and although i would have loved to call him everyday or what have you, a situation arose that I only spoke to him at best once a month, for half a year. What really made the difference was letters and care packages. little momentos that you (the deployer) can keep with you and look at when you are thinking of them etc.
Just as a side note, if you are sending a care package to your man, think twice about sending dirty pictures of yourself. Chances are his whole division/squad/battalion/command is going to see them. No matter what he does to hide them. Its partly driven by an unspoken brotherhood, and also... everyone wants to be home.. everyone wants to be reminded of home or whats waiting at home, even if it's someone elses dream. Now if you dont care if they are oggling you... right on go for it hunny. :)
and do remember that like the other peeps have said, you are both thinking about each other, that is what counts. If you are having real BIG problems, the military does provide assistance for those left behind. Now this is usually for married couples only but certain commands are taking this a step further and opening the program to 'significant others'. it might be worth checking in to if you are having serious emotional distress from this....
otherwise... this forum is here for you, we feel your pain... keep posting and ranting.
|
|
|
|
|
dr_feelgood
Mar 9, 2007, 4:04 AM
Post #10 of 13
(1743 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Apr 6, 2004
Posts: 26060
|
Keep the faith. He'll be home soon.
As one of the single guys over in iraq, I could see how a wives support could make or break a married guy. I had my external hard drive and a different schedule than my roommate, so i was good. But i could tell by the married/attached dudes demeanors whether things were going good back home.
And i Second the idea of pics of you climbing... and the limit the nekkid pics as well.. save it for email...
|
|
|
|
|
lockeyaaron
Mar 9, 2007, 2:34 PM
Post #11 of 13
(1725 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Sep 12, 2004
Posts: 649
|
dr_feelgood wrote: Keep the faith. He'll be home soon. I had my external hard drive and a different schedule than my roommate, so i was good.
I would say most of the ladies probably won't get that and that you should explain it to them but I don't think that this is the forum.
|
|
|
|
|
dondiego
Mar 15, 2007, 8:01 AM
Post #12 of 13
(1654 views)
Shortcut
Registered: May 8, 2001
Posts: 1367
|
Having been there several times now and as the significant other to someone who is there now, I have felt it from both sides of the pond and neither is easy. As a man I was always excited to be the one going and It never really hit until a little ways into the deployment. When my girly girl leaves and I drop her off, it hits like a brick as I walk back out to the car alone and drive home to the empty house. I missed a call from her this weekend too and I felt like crap because of it. I know she needed to hear my voice as much as I needed to hear hers, but that is life and will happen again before she comes home. I love getting the care packages but more than that I love getting the e-mails telling me the mundane stuff from her day. She stays upbeat to me when I am gone and always seems strong even when she really isn't. I try to do the same in return for her.
But if you are to send stuff, avoid chocolates as it is getting hotter now and that stuff melts in the mail. My favorite was home made chex mix. It can be a meal when you are out and about, and it makes you want to drink water which gets really old. I agree with the thoughts on the nekkid pics although creativity is the spice of life and not all guys show them off. If your guys respects you like I would imagine he does, he can find a way to hide anything personal you send. E-mail is the best for personal stuff although in a lot of places, it is a large room with 30 computers in it so if you do enclose something in the e-mail, warn him in the header.
It's not an easy life that you have chosen, but it is a noble one. Hangerlessbolt and his girlie girl know the two of us and since we met, we have had 9 deployments between us with much more time apart than together. It's hard but we love each other and make it ok. Someday it will be over for us and we will look back at our adventures and laugh. Trust is the only way.
-DD-
p.s. We spent our 2nd anniversary in Baghdad together. I flew across Iraq and made it to her base with 15 minutes left on the big day. I won man of the year for that
|
|
|
|
|
amikros
Mar 20, 2007, 4:04 AM
Post #13 of 13
(1597 views)
Shortcut
Registered: Dec 19, 2006
Posts: 109
|
I know what you mean...well, sort of.
My best friend since first grade (I'm a freshman in college now) left for Marines bootcamp last week...
I came back home a couple of days ago for spring break and it seems so empty without him. It isn't home anymore
|
|
|
|
|
|
