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lapistolle
Feb 24, 2003, 9:30 PM
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I was curious to get other womens' opinions about this.
I was recently approached by a woman who was the latest in a string of women being jerked around by a predatory fellow who is well known in the climbing community here. Basically, the guy is a drunk and sleeps around, and while all of the men that climb in this community seem to know this, the women that come in don't and a number of them have suffered at the hands of this guy.
The woman that talked to me asked me if there's anything that can be done about this guy to keep him from targeting other women. I honestly had to tell her that I don't think so because even though he's a complete jerk it's not like he's doing anything technically illegal.
Would like to know what other strong climbing women think about this...
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missedyno
Feb 25, 2003, 1:55 AM
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I think this happens anywhere... nevermind sport or location.
just have to learn from others.... and if need be, learn from your own mistakes (tee hee, trust me)
any person, be it male or female will use a bit of popularity to their advantage. an unfortunate fact of human nature. doesn't sound like he affects your life too much... advise your friends of your opinion, others have a right to make their own.
it's annoying though, i know.
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lapistolle
Feb 27, 2003, 3:27 PM
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daisyfay, you rock. and your friend rocks.
no, I don't know him that well. I think he'd move on me if he had a chance, but I avoid him.
he meets lots of newbie women because he runs the only climbing gym here. no real way to warn them. that's frustrating but what can you do.
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bagotricks
Feb 27, 2003, 4:02 PM
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In reply to: he meets lots of newbie women because he runs the only climbing gym here. no real way to warn them. that's frustrating but what can you do. :(
You can chat with the new women you see at the gym or on the rocks and just mention casually, when the subject of his gym comes up, that he is known to be a less-than-honorable man. Then move on to another subject.
Just giving women a heads-up on this kind of thing would be the right thing to do. Wouldn't you be thankful to be relieved of this kind of situation in your own personal life?
Don't worry about offending him, he's asking for trouble.
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lapistolle
Feb 27, 2003, 4:33 PM
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I completely agree with you that this guy is asking for trouble. I like your suggestion and intend to follow it...I had pretty well decided I needed to do something like this anyway.
sometimes I think the best thing I can do is just continue to be around in the community and be a resource for other women. He knows I'm onto him, as well, although he doesn't realize HOW MUCH I know about him and his history.
What really TICKS ME OFF is the way the men in the community don't regard his behavior as problematic...on the other hand, a lot of them are drug using, drunk single guys too so what can you expect. I just really hope he isn't spreading around STDs or something but I consider guys like this innately high risk because of their behavior.
grrrrrrr
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