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Carnage
Feb 13, 2009, 3:47 PM
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i took this girl i was interested to the local TR crag. we warmed up on some easy stuff, everyone (total in the group was about 6). so i had been the week before and sent this route(near my limit) on TR so i wanted to get it on lead. didnt tell em the diff between TR and lead, but i didnt expect to fall so i didnt see it being a big deal.
anyways, 2 quick bolts up, i mess up the sequence, hit the slopers wrong and start to barn door. so as im swinging, im yelling fuck fuck fuck fuck. the rope catches and im close enough to the ground to just kinda put my feet down and stand up.
they were all stunned, having not understood why i fell so far and how i "almost died". they were scared to climb for the rest of the day
started from the ground got back on it and sent right after tho.
things didnt work with her, but i brought another girl out there a few weeks later (no whippers this time). we ended up making out in my hammock. we been together 6 months now
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hansundfritz
Feb 13, 2009, 4:04 PM
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My old gf used to cry almost every time we did big, multi-pitch stuff. But then she'd cry "weak-sauce" (as it were) when we got back on the ground: "That wasn't too hard. You should be taking me up harder stuff than that. Let's try (insert 5.hard X route here) next time." Yeah right. At TR crags, on the other hand, we used to get quite busy with the "Big Gear."
It was my fault, I bought her the shoes and harness after all.
My wife does not climb -- and I'm perfectly happy with that.
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kachoong
Feb 13, 2009, 4:20 PM
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Proposing on a climb was the best "date" climb for me... it worked out well for her coz, while on belay, she said yes...
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adatesman
Feb 13, 2009, 4:27 PM
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cush
Feb 13, 2009, 4:32 PM
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i've never dated a climber (let's face it, i haven't been on a date since the 10th grade) but one of the cutest/funniest stories i can remember happened between a couple friends of my parents.
rob, the guy who would eventually go on about 15 years later to teach me to climb, was belaying his current girlfriend up the second pitch of some route in the gunks. when she was about 50 feet up the line he yelled up asking her if she wanted to marry him.....and then jokingly reminded her that if she refused that it wouldn't be a good idea to fall before the next belay station.
they've been married 25+ years.
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wonderwoman
Feb 13, 2009, 4:37 PM
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cush wrote: rob, the guy who would eventually go on about 15 years later to teach me to climb, was belaying his current girlfriend up the second pitch of some route in the gunks. when she was about 50 feet up the line he yelled up asking her if she wanted to marry him.....and then jokingly reminded her that if she refused that it wouldn't be a good idea to fall before the next belay station. they've been married 25+ years.
That is a very sweet story!
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blueeyedclimber
Feb 13, 2009, 4:46 PM
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wonderwoman wrote: petsfed wrote: So, without further ado, what are your best, and worst, experiences blending your romantic life with your climbing life? Finding that special secluded place to combine climbing with other activities  .... Flashing your partner when they make it to the belay station... You know, usual stuff! 
Is there really anybody out there that's luckier than me?
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krusher4
Feb 13, 2009, 5:19 PM
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thanks for finding and posting that link adatesmen, yeah that's funny for sure!
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fjclimbsrocks
Feb 13, 2009, 5:53 PM
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This thread made me think of Shockley's Ceiling at the Gunks. I have heard people call it Shockley's Divorcer due to the following female getting stuck in midair underneath the ceiling. Definitely not a "first date" climb. I practically made my girlfriend sign a waiver before we climbed it. No worries though, she hiked it 
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gogounou
Feb 13, 2009, 6:04 PM
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blueeyedclimber wrote: wonderwoman wrote: petsfed wrote: So, without further ado, what are your best, and worst, experiences blending your romantic life with your climbing life? Finding that special secluded place to combine climbing with other activities .... Flashing your partner when they make it to the belay station... You know, usual stuff! Is there really anybody out there that's luckier than me?
Ya know, BEC? I was kinda thinking the same thing. Cheers to you guys.
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petsfed
Feb 13, 2009, 6:34 PM
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fitzontherocks wrote: I assume you mean on the chick, not the OW.
Have you ever had a belayer burst into tears? Its really distracting. I ended up walking to the top so I could at least top rope the thing. Unfortunately, I haven't gone back to lead it since. As soon as the snow melts off it, I'll be back.
I bailed on her about 3 days later. Which looked a little suspicious, considering the sequence of events that followed, but that's a whole other story.
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fresh
Feb 13, 2009, 6:38 PM
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me and my gf's first multipitch climb together (her first overall) was the slab classic standard route on whitehorse ledge. let's see.. storms predicted, rained the night before, my first time leading slab, left the tag line behind, dropped the nut tool, dropped an ATC, not enough water, 85 degree weather, routefinding troubles, 9 pitches, I led every pitch, she cried, I cried, it was a good day. she's a trooper!
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wonderwoman
Feb 13, 2009, 6:54 PM
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fresh wrote: me and my gf's first multipitch climb together (her first overall) was the slab classic standard route on whitehorse ledge. let's see.. storms predicted, rained the night before, my first time leading slab, left the tag line behind, dropped the nut tool, dropped an ATC, not enough water, 85 degree weather, routefinding troubles, 9 pitches, I led every pitch, she cried, I cried, it was a good day. she's a trooper!
Our first multipitch too! They sky opened up and it poured when we were beyond all rap stations... I cried!
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cracklover
Feb 13, 2009, 6:56 PM
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camhead wrote: angry wrote: petsfed wrote: I wondered, while belaying my girlfriend on the southwest dihedral on the Whale's Tail in Eldo, what other people's experiences with climbing while dating. So, without further ado, what are your best, and worst, experiences blending your romantic life with your climbing life? Currently I'm dating a girl who climbs and I'm very happy about it. Hands down, the absolute worst person I've ever dated, one of the worst I've ever met, was also a climber. As much as it is climbing, it isn't about climbing. I dated a girl for a couple years who climbed, but with much different objectives than me. We did ALL the date climbs. Nutcracker, Bastile Crack, North Chimney of Castleton, everything. I would lead all pitches. It got old. When we started dating, she was just breaking into .11 sport, but had serious lead head issues and actually regressed quite a bit during the time we were together. By the end of the whole thing, we spent two weeks in Mexico and barely even climbed with each other, ad it was awesome. But, for the most part, I fit EVERYTHING I wanted to climb around her, and it sucked. I shot up nearly a number grade after we splitzed. With my now-wife, I am not sure that we have ever had a "date climb." We have very similar objectives, and it is merely going out cragging with our own projects. And it has always been like this. Fuck *date* climbs. Just climbing with your significant other is way better. That is awl.
^^^ is good post. But when your SO doesn't climb as hard as you, there's just no avoiding the above dynamic completely. And if the relationship is worth it, you just have to deal.
The only saving grace, I think, is if both people can recognize the need to get out (and let the other person get out) and climb with partners of their own ability. Mix it up a little. At least that's the best I've come up with.
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kachoong
Feb 13, 2009, 7:03 PM
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cracklover wrote: camhead wrote: angry wrote: petsfed wrote: I wondered, while belaying my girlfriend on the southwest dihedral on the Whale's Tail in Eldo, what other people's experiences with climbing while dating. So, without further ado, what are your best, and worst, experiences blending your romantic life with your climbing life? Currently I'm dating a girl who climbs and I'm very happy about it. Hands down, the absolute worst person I've ever dated, one of the worst I've ever met, was also a climber. As much as it is climbing, it isn't about climbing. I dated a girl for a couple years who climbed, but with much different objectives than me. We did ALL the date climbs. Nutcracker, Bastile Crack, North Chimney of Castleton, everything. I would lead all pitches. It got old. When we started dating, she was just breaking into .11 sport, but had serious lead head issues and actually regressed quite a bit during the time we were together. By the end of the whole thing, we spent two weeks in Mexico and barely even climbed with each other, ad it was awesome. But, for the most part, I fit EVERYTHING I wanted to climb around her, and it sucked. I shot up nearly a number grade after we splitzed. With my now-wife, I am not sure that we have ever had a "date climb." We have very similar objectives, and it is merely going out cragging with our own projects. And it has always been like this. Fuck *date* climbs. Just climbing with your significant other is way better. That is awl. ^^^ is good post. But when your SO doesn't climb as hard as you, there's just no avoiding the above dynamic completely. And if the relationship is worth it, you just have to deal. The only saving grace, I think, is if both people can recognize the need to get out (and let the other person get out) and climb with partners of their own ability. Mix it up a little. At least that's the best I've come up with. GO
Good points and I reckon with most climbing couples it's true that one climbs harder than the other. The way my wife and I deal with it is that she is always more than willing to belay me on harder stuff, if it's single pitch. Mostly though it's just getting out there away from the "world" that's the main objective and I'm always happy to climb lower grade stuff or at her limit.
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Feb 13, 2009, 7:04 PM
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wonderwoman wrote: fresh wrote: me and my gf's first multipitch climb together (her first overall) was the slab classic standard route on whitehorse ledge. let's see.. storms predicted, rained the night before, my first time leading slab, left the tag line behind, dropped the nut tool, dropped an ATC, not enough water, 85 degree weather, routefinding troubles, 9 pitches, I led every pitch, she cried, I cried, it was a good day. she's a trooper! Our first multipitch too! They sky opened up and it poured when we were beyond all rap stations... I cried!
Weird story - the first time Allison (my fiancee and primary climbing partner) was going to do a multi-pitch with me, was before we were dating. I was still dating my ex at the time. Due to a communication screwup, Allison drove three hours, got to the base of the route, to find me and my then gf two pitches up that same multi-pitch slab route in NH.
My then gf and I had already decided to break up at that time. And she wasn't even a climber. She just wanted to try it one time before we split up!
Despite having to just go ahead and drive the three hours home, Allison never got mad, and a year or two later we started dating. Now that's a keeper!
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Feb 13, 2009, 7:17 PM
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cracklover wrote: Now that's a keeper!
Yup, she is! And we just got your 'save the date' card! We'll try to make it out and congrats on picking a date!
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Feb 13, 2009, 7:32 PM
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wonderwoman wrote: fresh wrote: me and my gf's first multipitch climb together (her first overall) was the slab classic standard route on whitehorse ledge. let's see.. storms predicted, rained the night before, my first time leading slab, left the tag line behind, dropped the nut tool, dropped an ATC, not enough water, 85 degree weather, routefinding troubles, 9 pitches, I led every pitch, she cried, I cried, it was a good day. she's a trooper! Our first multipitch too! They sky opened up and it poured when we were beyond all rap stations... I cried!
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fitzontherocks
Feb 13, 2009, 7:39 PM
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petsfed wrote: Have you ever had a belayer burst into tears? .
Only because of my horrendous style.
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Feb 13, 2009, 7:46 PM
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In reply to: Is there really anybody out there that's luckier than me?
Not quite sure, there may be, or there may not be, you tell us after watching the clucking video posted by adatesman.
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sungam
Feb 13, 2009, 8:21 PM
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krusher4 wrote: did anyone see the "Clucking" post on mountainproject a few weeks back? 67 (thanks A) clucking posts on rc.com.
Petsfed, we have time. Do tell.
Well, as for "climbing dates" when we were just starting to hang our alot my gf said she'd love3 to try climbing. I thought this was awesome, but it never happened. Maybe I'll at least teach her to belay?
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Feb 13, 2009, 9:55 PM
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Its a really long story, and I haven't had the time to type it out.
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sungam
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petsfed wrote: Its a really long story, and I haven't had the time to type it out.
Some time, though.
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sungam wrote: petsfed wrote: Its a really long story, and I haven't had the time to type it out. Fair enough. Some time, though.
I've got a few.
Early on, my HS GF. She was an OK climber, usually able to follow anything I led. I got up a really thing 5.10 corner (hard for me at the time) and even though she followed it cleanly, she whimpered about the whole time. I finally snapped at her that you're only allowed to scream if you need a rescue.
Later that day while walking out in the dark, we missed the trail I didn't want to ford the beaver ponds. I knew that between us and the highway, which I could see, was the road that led directly to where we parked. It was a bit further than I'd hoped and it was a pain in the ass bushwhack. I got bitched at every moment of that walk. The whole day sucked.
Other shitty situations.
I took a girl over to "The Center Route" on the Cynical Pinnacle. She told me that she loved 5.9 trad and loved crack climbing. I led the first pitch of 5.8 and it took her half the day to follow. We bailed and I never called her back.
On the ridge traverse final bit of the 1st flatiron, I had a girl totally freeze up. I was able to build an anchor and lower her to the ground. I soloed to the rap anchors and met her a minute later. It wasn't a big deal.
A friend of mine in college tried to set me up with this girl. We went out and had fun and planned to climb a day later. She bailed because of a hangover, I was left without a partner, and I never called her back. In retrospect, I probably shouldn't take such a hard stance on stuff like that. I'm pretty mellow but I feel that partners need a pretty good reason to bail.
Those are just off the top of my head, there's others, but I'll just leave them. Maybe edl will post up about the time he got stranded at Vedauwoo.
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