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the_climber
Oct 17, 2008, 4:05 PM
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Valarc wrote: Protip: Don't come home and spray about how awesome that climbing trip was when your woman has been working her ass off all day. The only way the trip should be mentioned is to say how much better it would have been if she were there.
Some of the best advise in this thread so far!
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dingus
Oct 17, 2008, 4:14 PM
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the_climber wrote: Valarc wrote: Protip: Don't come home and spray about how awesome that climbing trip was when your woman has been working her ass off all day. The only way the trip should be mentioned is to say how much better it would have been if she were there. Some of the best advise in this thread so far!
Amen brahs!
I travel for work too.
Know what?
EVERY trip sucks, every meal is 'ok' to 'subpar' and that business meeting (at the club) was BORING AS HELL.
Never EVER EVER brag about the great time you had on a trip without your mate. Well... almost never
DMT
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billl7
Oct 17, 2008, 4:21 PM
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dingus wrote: the_climber wrote: Valarc wrote: Protip: Don't come home and spray about how awesome that climbing trip was when your woman has been working her ass off all day. The only way the trip should be mentioned is to say how much better it would have been if she were there. Some of the best advise in this thread so far! Amen brahs!
Edit: I find about 3-to-5 days notice for a climbing day to be about right. Too much shorter and other plans will take over. Longer cuts too much into the number of days where it appears I don't have climbing plans in the near future.
Bill
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Maddhatter
Oct 17, 2008, 4:53 PM
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There are chicks out there that don't dig climbing?
Huh, Bummer.
It is better to be pussy whipped then pussy less.
Deal with it or move on to the next chick.
If you were a climber when she hooked up with you she should have known what she was getting into. If you didn't make it clear how you felt about climbing to her at the start this is really more your fault then hers.
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fresh
Oct 17, 2008, 5:02 PM
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two choices:
1. put up with it
2. break up with her
she won't change, neither will you. you'll both be happiest when you're following what you love. you gotta decide if it's worth it to you.
oh, and don't forget to talk about this stuff.
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0x2102
Oct 17, 2008, 5:05 PM
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Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy wiped then pussy less.
It is not, however, better to be pussy whipped and climbing less.
Oh wait, you said wiped, I agree, I like getting pussy wiped as opposed to no pussy.
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pmyche
Oct 17, 2008, 5:05 PM
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Valarc wrote: Don't come home and spray about how awesome that climbing trip was when your woman has been working her ass off all day. The only way the trip should be mentioned is to say how much better it would have been if she were there.
If she has to work and I don't, it's my family duty to climb as fully as I can and report about it afterward. I do the same for her when I get busy with work and she's off.
Assuming that sort of give and take is happening, a mate who resents your good times away is just being selfish. That's being a true partner; happily supporting in whatever capacity conditions allow. For us it's a given that we'd rather climb together most times. That said, conveying that you missed your mate is a nice gesture.
A buddy stepped up big-time and soloed El Cap with scant experience in that sort of climbing. In elation a day from the summit, he phoned his GF. She complained about how long it took and what a waste of time it was. Selfish little bitch. She dumped him a short time later. Great riddance.
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k.l.k
Oct 17, 2008, 5:13 PM
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clausti wrote: If she can't figure out what to do in beautiful fucking Yosemite valley for a day or a weekend, then she might need to get a life. Or y'all might just be ill suited for one another.
Clausti is characteristically blunt, but she's got something here. It's one thing if your so doesn't climb but does like to hike or paint landscapes or bird watch or read novels outdoors or whatever. If she doesn't like to be outdoors, then you may need to find common ground elsewhere.
Maybe she can go to art galleries while you climb in the gym.
Yeah, I know, that's a long shot.
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petsfed
Oct 17, 2008, 5:17 PM
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So, just to be clear, you are unhappy in your relationship, and you haven't really done anything to solve the problem?
Congratulations dude. You're an idiot.
Sit down with her. Explain the problem. Find a solution. I'm not gonna say what your options are, but understand that the only reason to stay unhappy in a relationship is because you legitimately don't want to be happy.
And sometimes the best solution is to end it.
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Maddhatter
Oct 17, 2008, 5:27 PM
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0x2102 wrote: Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy wiped then pussy less. It is not, however, better to be pussy whipped and climbing less. Oh wait, you said wiped, I agree, I like getting pussy wiped as opposed to no pussy.
Yea I guess I did say "wiped" but yea that sounds pretty good also!
Climb less + get laid more = a fair trade to me.
It would suck to grow old alone and only have a empty house to come home to.
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0x2102
Oct 17, 2008, 5:32 PM
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pmyche wrote: A buddy stepped up big-time and soloed El Cap with scant experience in that sort of climbing. In elation a day from the summit, he phoned his GF. She complained about how long it took and what a waste of time it was.
At that point I would have said, "Later bitch, I gotta clean this pitch!" and kicked her to the curb ASAP after topping out.
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Oct 17, 2008, 5:46 PM
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This sounds familiar.....like how I hadn't climbed in a year and that relationship was heading toward the 1 yr anniversary???
Fix: come to an agreement OR get in a relationship with someone who is motivational, and positive, pushes you, believes in you and can have fun climbing and doing other things. It is really hard to be in a relationship with someone who you can't even take a walk in the woods with let alone camp or climb with. Seperate lives aside from a relationship are great but doing things together is better.
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Feller
Oct 17, 2008, 8:40 PM
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my girl dosn't climb....
but she makes me go climbing anyways. cause if I don't, I end up pacing back and forth in our apartment, and that drives her more crazy than if I just leave, go climbing, come back and take a shower. cause then I'm chill as hell.
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marebear
Oct 17, 2008, 8:43 PM
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stonefox wrote: Fix: come to an agreement OR get in a relationship with someone who is motivational, and positive, pushes you, believes in you and can have fun climbing and doing other things. It is really hard to be in a relationship with someone who you can't even take a walk in the woods with let alone camp or climb with. Seperate lives aside from a relationship are great but doing things together is better.
Good advice.
To the OP, has it ever occurred to you to try to get her into climbing? One of my good friends is a strong climber (think 5.14/V12) and makes it clear to girls he dates how important climbing is to him. He brought a new girl into the group about a year ago. Gorgeous, blond sorority girl. We all rolled our eyes and knew it wouldn't last. A year later, she is onsighting 5.11 and bouldering V7. It can happen.
My recent ex is a climber, and I am a much stronger climber after being with him for 2 years, but I love climbing more now than I ever did when we were together. Spending every minute together on and off the rock isn't healthy either, remember that. There needs to be some space somewhere in the relationship. If she doesn't want to climb with you, take up something as a couple that is new for both of you that you do together, and suggest that she does whatever she likes to do when you go climbing. That way you have something that belongs to both of you and something that you do separate. Also, COMMUNICATE about this shit (and everything else). If you don't, the relationship is guaranteed to fail at some point.
And remember gentleman, there are single girls out there looking for a climber dude to spend some time with. 
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shockabuku
Oct 17, 2008, 9:10 PM
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Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy whipped then pussy less.
FAIL.
Pussy can be bought if you're that desperate.
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Maddhatter
Oct 17, 2008, 9:20 PM
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shockabuku wrote: Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy whipped then pussy less. FAIL. Pussy can be bought if you're that desperate.
I wouldn't know. I've never needed to buy it.
Then again, if you think you can just buy a good woman you have never had one.
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marebear
Oct 17, 2008, 9:23 PM
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Maddhatter wrote: shockabuku wrote: Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy whipped then pussy less. FAIL. Pussy can be bought if you're that desperate. I wouldn't know. I've never needed to buy it. Then again, if you think you can just buy a good woman you have never had one.
I'm not sure "pussy" = "good woman", in fact, I'm sure it doesn't.
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Maddhatter
Oct 17, 2008, 9:27 PM
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marebear wrote: Maddhatter wrote: shockabuku wrote: Maddhatter wrote: It is better to be pussy whipped then pussy less. FAIL. Pussy can be bought if you're that desperate. I wouldn't know. I've never needed to buy it. Then again, if you think you can just buy a good woman you have never had one. I'm not sure "pussy" = "good woman", in fact, I'm sure it doesn't.
But pussy whipped sure does!  A good woman can make ANY man whipped and the man be happy about it. Do good women not have pussy or you just dislike the word? If so please forgive me I will not use it again. vagina whipped just doesn't sound right!!!!
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sungam
Oct 17, 2008, 9:38 PM
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A good women wouldn't stop you doing the things you love.
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Maddhatter
Oct 17, 2008, 9:41 PM
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sungam wrote: A good women wouldn't stop you doing the things you love.
Your Single huh? LOL What about what SHE loves?
Live and learn every ying has it's yang.
It's about give and take.
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HappinessIsWinning
Oct 17, 2008, 9:44 PM
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Watch out for succubi. 
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sungam
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Maddhatter wrote: sungam wrote: A good women wouldn't stop you doing the things you love. Your Single huh? LOL What about what SHE loves? Live and learn every ying has it's yang. It's about give and take.
I go climbing, she hangs out with her friends, reads, fucks around on the interwebs, whatever. The stuff she would do if she was single.
I don't know if you guys have noticed, but there are things you can do other then climb and spend time with a member of the opposite sex.
h8er, sounds like either you need to find a chick who has a life or your chick needs to get a life.
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Oct 17, 2008, 9:53 PM
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'Pussy whipped' implies forced to do things against one's will. Of course for some people being pussy whipped is the goal and they are in a bizarre state of happily-unhappy. Chacun a sont gout.
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marebear
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Maddhatter wrote: marebear wrote: I'm not sure "pussy" = "good woman", in fact, I'm sure it doesn't. But pussy whipped sure does! A good woman can make ANY man whipped and the man be happy about it. Do good women not have pussy or you just dislike the word? If so please forgive me I will not use it again. vagina whipped just doesn't sound right!!!!
No, no, not offended. I was just referring to the fact that the kind of pussy you would purchase probably isn't attached to a "good woman". I should hope the good women of the world aren't setting out to pussy whip their men. Gives all chicks a bad name. We aren't all controlling.
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