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jumpingrock
Jan 30, 2003, 8:12 AM
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Ok so this is how life went for about a year. My climbing partner(male) and I happily climbed together all the time. Now however we both have convinced like 2 ladies each to come and climb with us. The problem is that one of the three ladies that I convinced to start climbing I will likely be dating soon but I feel responsible for the other one who bought all the gear and will buy a year pass but she doesn't know anybody else who will be climbing. So basically my question is: should I climb w/ both the girl who I will be dating and the other girl (and I know that climbing threesomes are kinda iffy at a climbing gym) or should I try to arrange my schedule so that give each girl a bit of my climbing time (ie start climbing 5 times a week) or should I try to hook the girl that I will not be dating up with my climbing partner and one of his female partners.
Yours Truly,
Confused Climber in Canada
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ecocliffchick
Jan 30, 2003, 1:14 PM
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I don't see any issue with climbing as a threesome - and the likelihood that all three of you will want to climb the same nights every week is pretty unlikely too, so you'll likely have some days when it's just a pair. An extra climbing partner is never an issue!
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wishiwaswest
Jan 30, 2003, 1:52 PM
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What's so iffy about threesomes at the gym? I do threesomes frequently and if you're really cranking hard, the extra rest while the third climbs is most welcome! Only issue I can see is if the one you got into climbing first gets jealous 'cause you're dating the other one....now THAT is where it can get sticky...Good Luck!
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valygrl
Jan 30, 2003, 3:33 PM
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Dude, what about your original partner???? Isn't THAT who you should be worried about ditching?
Anna
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climberchic
Jan 30, 2003, 6:22 PM
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[small]This topic was moved to the General forum by climberchic[/small]
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asaph
Jan 30, 2003, 6:38 PM
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you aren't talking about having sex with both of 'em. It's just climbing. Have fun and climb with both, if your girlfriend has a problem with that type of a friendship with other women, you have bigger problems than simply choosing a climbing partner.
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esimhs99
Jan 30, 2003, 7:51 PM
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there shouldnt be any problems climbing with 3 or just splitting your time. wait and see how it all pans out, especially since you said you will "likely be dating her soon", which means you arent now. but if they are serious about climbing, then really there should be no problems.
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enigma
Jan 30, 2003, 8:23 PM
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Why is this post remiscent of "Dear Abby", hmmn. Sounds like there something else going on in your mind besides climbing. Could this be true?
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alpinebedy
Jan 30, 2003, 8:50 PM
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In my experience it's easy to get a climbing partner, especially at the gym. So why don't you invite a fourth to join your group and mix it up. I climb with a group at the gym and spend the least amount of time climbing with my boyfriend. Or why don't you just let the women climb together and climb with your friend? The only issue is if your 'likely' girlfriend will get jealous of you climbing with others...
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maculated
Jan 30, 2003, 8:56 PM
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Guys are such idiots. Don't ditch anyone.
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kman
Jan 30, 2003, 9:13 PM
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^^we are not Just climb with the group as a whole. D'uh. If there is three then 1 belays 1 climbs and if the other is bored then she or he can boulder.
See Maculated not all guys are idiots
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newland
Jan 30, 2003, 10:01 PM
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If you like climbin with her, then keep climbing with her. If you don't, then don't.
Or are ya feelin a bit guilty because you only brought her climbin to increase your chances of gettin laid and now that you don't need her for that anymore you wanna dump her.
Well hang on buddy, your girlyfriend may not work out and your buddy's gonna be pissed because you dumped him for a chick . And while you can masturbate, you can't belay yourself
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hangdoggypound
Jan 30, 2003, 10:36 PM
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While newland sounds a little "rough on the edges" - he has a solid point.
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tanner
Jan 30, 2003, 11:08 PM
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I think my girl friend thought I love rocks more than I love her.
I really had to clear that one up!!!
(I love her more)
But I still have pictures of Mountains on my wall!!! And dream about Rocks
Mmmmm Rock......
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baywolf
Jan 30, 2003, 11:24 PM
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this is a lame post.
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meataxe
Jan 31, 2003, 12:03 AM
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Threesomes are good. If you are taking turns going up the wall, you get a bit more rest. This way you can climb harder when it's your turn.
Another good thing about three is that if one person has to bail, it doesn't cancel the day.
Plus... you may find a single person on a particular day and break up into two pairs. It's always good to find new potential partners.
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granitegod
Jan 31, 2003, 12:13 AM
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"Help me, help me, i have too many girls who want to climb with me!!!"....never thought I'd hear that one. How any chick who climbs would have a hard time getting a date or a belay, I don't know.....my advice: date em both. Whichever one turns into the best climber, or whines the least when you wanna road trip every weekend, thats the one you want.
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enigma
Jan 31, 2003, 1:22 AM
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And when the girl roadtrips alone???
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pbjosh
Jan 31, 2003, 1:36 AM
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drivel, suggest moving this one to community
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orangekyak
Jan 31, 2003, 1:38 AM
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just a matter of time before these women become great climbers and start feeling guilty about leaving you behind.
good luck
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texplorer
Jan 31, 2003, 1:38 AM
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I second the lame post.
My advice however is to find yourself a new partner. That way you'll never get stuck belaying your gf on a 5.8 when you want to be up doing a runnout sick 5.10 alpine route.
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quickclips
Jan 31, 2003, 2:08 AM
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Just have everyone go. Why ditch everyone. The good part is now you have more partners so if some can't go you have others who might be able to.
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flying_dutchman
Jan 31, 2003, 2:16 AM
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take up free-soloing
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jonzoclimber
Jan 31, 2003, 2:25 AM
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YOU LOSER
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calamity_chk
Jan 31, 2003, 2:39 AM
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okay, my obligatory .02 ...
sorry bud, but i'm with orangekyak on this one. what's with the ego here?
i'm dating someone *and* have a male climbing partner .. no conflict. my partner is even in a budding romance, and we're planning a threesome of sorts.
then again, i have a pretty firm policy about maintaining a line between climbing and dating, even when climbing with a "romantic interest." buuut, climbing is climbing to me .. and climbing will always win out over a date.
also, i would say that the answer to your dilemma depends on the nature of your relationship with both of these women. is the soon to be gf jealous or something? why would you suddenly need to pay either of them extra attention ??
imho, "extra attn" at the crag is unnecessary and embarrassing, unless it's just he and i. then again, i have a pretty strong/independent personality and dont really dig PDA. hell, hand-holding is more public affection than most men get from me.
amber
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