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Urban dictionary def: Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment What do you guys think of it as a concept?
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Fun in concept, complicated in reality.
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cmagee1 wrote: Urban dictionary def: Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment What do you guys think of it as a concept? it has worked well for me in the past. it has also not worked well for me in the past. the idea has its merits, but choose your partners carefully...especially if they like knives.
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Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man.
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I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming.
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Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough
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Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit.
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Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. There is a big difference between not thinking of it as a men opposed to not acknowledging differences between sexes.
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Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. That's not what you said. Sure I'd consider it, but to "get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming" isn't necessarily in the cards.
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I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. There is a big difference between not thinking of it as a men opposed to not acknowledging differences between sexes. I think that if both people are on the same page it could possibility work. However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. I also think men today also look for other benefits besides sex , if they can find a women who will help them financially they'll do that too. Men will be friends, but are still looking for the benefit. The only situation that men can stay on the friends page is when you have business or activity in common. But you have to stay out of the bedroom, or women lose integrity from the man.
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abe_ascends wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. That's not what you said. Sure I'd consider it, but to "get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming" isn't necessarily in the cards. The link isn't quite about "friends with benefits," but your conversation here-- guys being just as likely to get attached, and likewise, females wanting to remain unattached-- reminded me of it. Enjoy! *NSFW tag for language* http://garfunkelandoates.com/...s/9/one-night-stand/ It's a wonder SNL hasn't picked them up yet.
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enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true.
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Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. I would never consider a romatic relationship.
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rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. +1
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chadnsc wrote: rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. +1 Given that you only gave me +1, I must assume that you have never met her.
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rrrADAM wrote: chadnsc wrote: rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. +1 Given that you only gave me +1, I must assume that you have never met her. HA! Ok, +5
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rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. Adam, you are so miserable, angry and antagonistic. Is all that radiation, cold weather and being in nuclear plants getting to you. Or are you now with men too? Try to stay on topic, not personal attacks on your presumed analysis of my life. You never have anything positive to say on any of your posts, to anyone. Don't harass me anymore. 
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enigma wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. There is a big difference between not thinking of it as a men opposed to not acknowledging differences between sexes. I think that if both people are on the same page it could possibility work. However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. I also think men today also look for other benefits besides sex , if they can find a women who will help them financially they'll do that too. Men will be friends, but are still looking for the benefit. The only situation that men can stay on the friends page is when you have business or activity in common. But you have to stay out of the bedroom, or women lose integrity from the man. what kind of guys do you hangout with?
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enigma wrote: rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. Adam, you are so miserable, angry and antagonistic. Is all that radiation, cold weather and being in nuclear plants getting to you. Or are you now with men too? Try to stay on topic, not personal attacks on your presumed analysis of my life. You never have anything positive to say on any of your posts, to anyone. Don't harass me anymore.   He wasn't harassing you enigma. He was just pointing out that your comment regarding 'all married men would cheat' is biased and not based in any type of fact. That and you're a big ball-o-crazy.
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macherry wrote: enigma wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough So you're saying that if you had a fun, moderately attractive girl who wanted to have sex with you on a regular basis and occasionally hang out beyond that, you would never consider a romantic relationship? I'm sorry sir, but I believe that it is YOU that is full of bullshit. There is a big difference between not thinking of it as a men opposed to not acknowledging differences between sexes. I think that if both people are on the same page it could possibility work. However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. I also think men today also look for other benefits besides sex , if they can find a women who will help them financially they'll do that too. Men will be friends, but are still looking for the benefit. The only situation that men can stay on the friends page is when you have business or activity in common. But you have to stay out of the bedroom, or women lose integrity from the man. what kind of guys do you hangout with? Seriously. Some people just don't make wise choices about who they spend time around. My longest standing friend, meaning the one I've had regular contact with and whom I still see often, is a woman who is married with two kids. We have known each other for 12+ years and there has never been anything sexual between us. Had dinner with her just last weekend, actually.
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enigma wrote: rrrADAM wrote: enigma wrote: However, almost every man even married, would have sex given the opportunity and not getting caught. Ummm... No offense, but there are many men who, even if single horny and drunk, would NOT have sex with you, even if nobody were to know about it. So, that's not entirely true. Adam, you are so miserable, angry and antagonistic. Is all that radiation, cold weather and being in nuclear plants getting to you. Or are you now with men too? Try to stay on topic, not personal attacks on your presumed analysis of my life. You never have anything positive to say on any of your posts, to anyone. Don't harass me anymore.   Ummmm... Yea, OK... You sure told "miserable, angry and antagonistic" me. I even said "No offense", as I was just directly pointing out that your statement was incorrect, in a way that you can understand. Seriously, though... What did I say that is untrue?
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Gmburns2000 wrote: Kartessa wrote: I_do wrote: Kartessa wrote: blondgecko wrote: Fun in concept, complicated in reality. Then you're doing it wrong. I have a theory on this matter, though it's just a theory. But if I'm right, I may have figured out a system to keep things from getting complicated. I'll give more info once I test it a little more  Easy for you to say, you get to do it with a man. Guys are just as likely as girls to get attached and start thinking there's some kind of serious romantic relationship forming. coughcoughBULLSHITcoughcough Ummmm, she has a point actually. Dudes talk a good game but they are just as, if not more neurotic, jealous and dramatic about that kind of stuff than the ladies are. At least that is what I have observed when my female friends have experimented with different non-relationship dynamics over the years. It's not really a man/woman thing though, so much as it is a human thing. Most people lack the emotional maturity, intelligence and control to make a dynamic like that work. It is a truly tragic flaw IMO but people simply are not self aware and rational enough (or seemingly even want to be) to override the more basic emotional impulses. There are obviously exceptions but the odds that two of them will meet at the right time in their lives to make that kind of relationship actually work are very low.
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